My boyfriend is mad that I don't let him save my private pics?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Whenever we sext, he asks me if he can save them for "later use", I say no because I'm scared that anyone will see them or worse. He said that he understood, but then started saying stuff like " We've been together 2 years and u don't trust me? " "For me nudes are important". It's not that I don't trust him, I'm just scared that someone's gonna peep into his phone and see them. I don't think he fully understands that.

[Screenwriter]

No means no. It's not about trust. You're absolutely right. He could be scrolling through his phone and a friend might see the pic and he brags about how great it is and... they're off and running.

The ONLY way I'd ever allow someone to have nudes of me is if they were COMPLETELY unidentifiable. No heads on any of the pix. No birthmarks.

And I have the feeling this guy would say, "Well what good is a naked pix of you without your face!" Whine, whine, whine. If your compromise isn't good enough, don't send him any more nude pix, period.

Let him use girlie mags or online porn if he needs beat-off material. He gets to see you in person, doesn't he? And he gets to enjoy you then, correct? He's being greedy.

[Hulk_kitty]

You shouldn't be sending nude photos to anyone, let alone to your boyfriend if you are scared that he will do something with them.

I don't understand why you or he needs to save to nudes for photos of your partner anyway, unless you are going use them for nothing but trouble. Been naked in front of partner should be for sex, and should be a moment where can enjoy seeing each other bodies. I don' want to see my girlfriend naked in a pictures all the time, I will get bored, and there will be no excitement for the bedroom.

with regards to sex texting, what does it matter if someone sees them. Because you can just change your number, and people won't even see them, or know they came from you. I wouldn't worry about the sex texting.

Stop sending nudes photos to boyfriends, this is risky behaviour and can be used for revenge. Not necessarily to put on porn sites, but to go show everyone on their phone of your naked body.

[Hulk_kitty]

@wiltingrosepetal yes like I am be lectured by you, a stranger bye

[ChicoFromThe305]

Then tell him that he isn't the reason, tell him that with new technology nowadays including AI it's only getting easier to invade people's privacy and with technology there's always a way to access the privacy you have stored in technology, also tell him to assure him that as long as he doesn't save them he doesn't need old pictures for later use cause you are an unlimited source to em, if he doesn't feel the need for later use he won't want them for later use, it's as simple, if that doesn't help then tell him that if you didn't trust him, you wouldn't send him anything to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Honey, private pics are exactly that - private. It's totally reasonable that you wouldn't want them floating around. A good partner should respect your boundaries. Talk to him calmly, explain why you're not comfortable, and maybe offer a compromise like cute couple pics together you can both share. Trust is key in a relationship!

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the waters of trust and privacy in a relationship can be as tricky as trying to read a book while riding a rollercoaster - thrilling but incredibly challenging! Your feelings are totally valid. In the digital age, conserving one’s privacy, especially concerning sensitive content, is crucial. It’s not about not trusting your partner, but about safeguarding your personal boundaries and ensuring your comfort. Let's flip the script for a moment - it's not about the length of time you've been together, but about respecting each other's concerns and comfort zones.

You might suggest a middle ground, like enjoying those moments live and in the moment, without leaving digital footprints. Communicate openly, making clear it's not about trust, but about your peace of mind. Love demands respect for boundaries, not just emotional bonding over sexts. Who knows, focusing on the present rather than preserving it for 'later use' might even bring some unexpected, and undoubtedly thrilling, spontaneity into your relationship! 💑🚫📸

[MzAsh]

People can peep them if they wanted without him saving them. Just you sending them is incredibly risky.

[AviatorTom]

It's interesting that he asks you, since they are already saved in the sext message.

His "later use" is so he can look at you when he has the need to masturbate, and you are not around. That's fairly common in guys.

[Apple1996]

He probably already saves them into a locked folder

[findacure4wokeness]

As hot as receiving a nude from your girlfriend might be I would delete it as soon as I got it. I would hate even an ex to find out that that picture got out of my phone somehow. people have committed suicide from such things happening. besides he might be saving them and not telling you.

[DJB72]

My guess is he's saved some already. Don't send them and it solves the problem. If he genuinely respects you he won't insist on them. I've been married 20 years and never sent or asked for a nude. I never will. It reduces my wife to a piece of meat.

[WhitneySnow]

I totally agree with you. Nudes shouldn’t be that important to a guy unless you’re in an LDR. Unless you still live with your parents, he can see you naked in person whenever you both want. That should be enough for him.

[dustybiker2]

Don't fool yourself. He's saved them anyway. Be grateful he asked, he'll just be more discreet because you replied with no.

[HelpfulWoman]

if nudes are more important than YOUR comfort level, ditch. Its not like he's never going to get more nudes

[Katyalov]

This is enough for me to dump that jerk. Have some self respect. He's manipulating you to do that even after you clearly told him you're not comfortable with it. Know your worth otherwise you will have those gross men taking advantage of you.

[TonyMetal___86]

My question is why does he cares so much about keeping your back photo exposed, when he can have you all for real? 🤔
Anyways, he's just your boyfriend, do not have any rights on you since he ain't your husband!

[joehypo1]

He has them he asked you to feel you out and so now he knows to keep them tighly on lock down

[sheikalana]

If he wants to keep your nudes then send him faceless nudes that way if someone by accident sees them no one will be able to tell it's you.

[laly520]

he ain't the right guy for u
nudes comes before the respect he is supposed to show when it comes to ur OWN nudes

[JayBones2469]

Just make sure your face is not in frame or your wearing a mask. To be honest if he needs pics for "future use" he's gonna leave you anyway because you don't satisfy him

[Anonymous]

Yeah, like he is not saving them. Good luck with that.

[Mrtcn01]

😂😂😅😅👏🤫🤫🤫🤫

[cootjuhh]

nudes have to be handled with respect for what the owner wants. nothing else. if he gets mad for that he isn't the right person to even recieve them.

[dudeinohio]

I'd just create a hidden directory and save tem there. Maybe he does too

[Mrtcn01]

If you send when he ask so he does not have to keep them 😉

[Starrrboy]

You know he's already saving them, right? lol...

[Sam12348]

Safety first girl. Even when you trust him it's still better to delete them

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be doing that in the first place and it won’t matter if he’s my partner or whatever.. it isn’t worth the risk

[HelpfulWoman]

not this again. don't duplicate ask

[poshspice123]

Just ask him to respect your decision.

[ProbablyClueless]

He understands, he just doesn't care.

[jimmy2]

He just pass them on anyway