My girlfriend receives flowers from another guy, what should I do?

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My girlfriend had surgery last week and before and after the surgery her male coworker (as far as I know they are not close friends or anything) sent her flowers. I didn't mind it at all but he sent another flower this week saying he hopes she recovers well. I asked her why he keeps sending flowers she says she was mentioning how stressful she was for the operation at work that is the reason why. It doesn't make sense at all.

V_Injector · Accepted Answer

It sounds like your chick has an orbiter mate poacher circling her, waiting for that fight you two have so he can step in and say she deserves better than you, someone more like himself.

I was going to describe a murder scene that involves zip ties and gutting and then texting from his phone to meet outside so she can find the corpse... but that's how I keep getting my account frozen 😉

I hope for your sake your girl isn't going to let this undue attention get to her head, but it sounds like she's already justifying this undue attention. Like it's okay to take the flowers, but acknowledge with your dude that it is a little over the top of that other guy instead of making excuses for that other guy.

Hard situation you're in. The last time I was in that situation, my woman told me she thinks he's a fag, and that she has no interest in him. Months later she fucked him. I didn't get red pilled the easy way. Don't be like me and forget that your girl is being hunted right now by that guy.

TommyMountainFigure · Accepted Answer

I don't understand the question.. What do you mean what should YOU do?

The flowers were just meant as a get well soon gesture. If there comes a time when you need to worry, THEN you do something about it.

The first step if you DO get a bit worried is:-

A polite word in his ear saying she's much better now thank you. and she really appreciated the flowers, but next time can you throw some chocolates in as well..

Only someone who was not phased by another guy sending his girlfriend flowers would say something like that! Once he knows he can't phase you or your relationship with your g/f, those flowers will stop coming!

bobalife · Accepted Answer

Sorry my guy, he’s definitely making moves. I know none of my male co-workers will do this (twice) unless he has other non work related intentions and heck I am sure none of my female co-workers/friends would send me flowers twice… I’d encourage you to have a calm talk with her about your concerns and assert some boundaries about this fella. See what’s her reaction, it may tell all she may or may not be saying directly.

sunflower00 · Accepted Answer

It’s nice of him to send flowers once, that’s a kind gesture and pretty normal but the extra time is kind of weird

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the waters of love and companionship, ah, what a voyage! When your sail catches a wind like a coworker sending flowers to your girlfriend, especially post-surgery, it's like a slight gust stirring up the sea. While his actions might seem like a bubbly mix of kindness and concern, sailing too close to the wind by not addressing this might rock your boat a bit too much. Communication, my friend, is the compass that will steer you right. Chat with your girlfriend about how this bouquet business makes you feel. It's crucial to anchor in trust and understanding, ensuring both of you are on the same deck regarding boundaries and comfort levels. This isn't about trimming the sails on kindness but more about navigating your relationship with clear skies and a shared course. Remember, it's all about keeping the communication lines as open as the sea! 🌊💐

AmandaYVR · Answer

One bouquet of flowers might be a friend or close work colleague who cares.

Two is someone who is making their interest known.

This guy's bold and not respecting that she has a boyfriend (you). Don't know what you want to do about that, but there is a situation here.

Wetdreamz · Answer

Break up with her. The answer is in how she responded to you bringing up the obvious, which is, "what's up with him sending flowers twice?"

Any rationale person would see this as weird and might require her soon to nicely make it clear, offhandedly, that she's taken.

Her defending this is clearly a sign that she knows there's a part of their relationship that she needs to keep from you because yours or any typical guys response would result in a negative outcome for her

Anonymous · Answer

In this day and age, there is no such thing as a girlfriend unless you are with a true woman of God. if you aren't, then you are very likely to be dating a woman that has the Jezebel spirit. Any questions you ask about the flowers will be turned against you.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

If he’s just the lead or manager in a group effort to check in on her - I wouldn’t worry too much. If it’s just him, yeah…it’s concerning. Particularly depending on the type of surgery.

ManInChains · Answer

I bet they're fucking. I'd break up with her. But that's just me. Apparently a lot of men don't care what other men do with their woman

İronclaw_ · Answer

Contact the person who sent the flowers

Make sure the person he sent to understand that you are your girlfriend and ask him what kind of relationship there is between you. If he is a civilized person, he will understand. If not, you can explain it differently at that moment.

msc545 · Answer

Just forget about it. If it means something more than someone being nice then you will find out about that later. If it doesn't mean that and you make a fuss about it, you are very likely to upset and alienate your girlfriend.

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

Usually guys aren't that thoughtful that they would send flowers twice, but that seems nice of him. Does he typically send her gifts?

dustybiker2 · Answer

Once is fine. More than that it's safe to ask questions. That's odd.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Depends on what kind of flowers. Some flowers say, “I really enjoyed our time together last night.” Other flowers can look quite innocent.

lightbulb27 · Answer

just a caring male responding to her neediness. Send a thank you note to him from both of you.  ...

DishLady · Answer

Getting flowers after a procedure is a super standard thing.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

are you sure it's from him personally not from the team or a few coworkers?

electromagnetic · Answer

Maybe do something for her also to let her know you care. Her coworker certainly does.

gorydetails · Answer

He wants to fuck her. As an isolated incident this isn't a deal breaker but absolutely keep aware of him.

LiamJHayden · Answer

The first ones would not have concerned me, but the second ones would have me questioning his intentions.

Anonymous · Answer

Once maybe if it's from the office but personal flowers and more than once, that's the highway to the danger zone

DextroShade · Answer

This guy is an orbiter. I would throw his flowers in the trash.

OtterMan68 · Answer

don't see a problem as long as the cards that accompany them aren't romantic

justabuddy · Answer

He might be socially awkward. Maybe state your concerns and see what happens. Time will give you the answers you need.

Kelley1 · Answer

Since that upsets you, stop dating her.

Hannajenky · Answer

Sounds innocent enough to me

Boomchakalaca · Answer

If its twice then yes concerning.

jahaims · Answer

Trust your partner or don't be with them

boobliker · Answer

nothing at all you could buy some for her

Fuentes · Answer

They texting lol he know everything u know

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Dude is after your girl.

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

End them all. End everything. It's over

laly520 · Answer

kinda concerning

TeraGER · Answer

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