My Boyfriend is saving pictures of other girls, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

Am I overreacting? I found my boyfriend has been saving pictures of girls to his phone, there were hundreds and he's been saving them daily. From them being completely naked to not at all. They all have similar features, complete opposite to me. I felt so hurt and upset to see this. I don't know why he would need to save all these pictures. we've been together almost a year. Please help me understand, am I in the wrong? It's not a body image thing, I just feel so disrespected. I also can't seem to get past this, it's playing on my mind a lot. But now I feel guilty for finding the pictures. It was completely unintentional, I had his phone to take photos while he was in the bathroom and he had left the camera roll open.

I'm overreacting and need to get over it

I have every right to be upset and this isn't normal boyfriend behaviour

Updates

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I forgot to add that I've talked to him about it, he told me that it's not like he's cheating because he doesn't actually know them. He doesn't know why he does it and it's probably a body image thing for me.

[Anonymous]

So sorry you’re going through this ;( . You don’t deserve this kind of treatment from him. You say you’ve talked to him about it. If he isn’t willing to change, you have EVERY RIGHT to leave him. Don’t let him manipulate you into accepting his pig like behavior. If he wants to look at other woman so badly let him have it and I’d say LEAVE him before it gets worse and he makes excuses for cheating IRL… and him saying he doesn’t know why he does it? Really? You deserve the best! You’d be better off alone or waiting for someone better than putting up with this. Just my thoughts. Good luck 🍀

[strateguy632]

you should stop worrying. consider he sees hundreds of women on any bus ride or subway ride! stop over reacting for minor stuff.

[boggboss]

He is saving them to wank to them I would say it is disrespectful as for ehat u should do u need to talk to him

[boggboss]

Then u have to decide if u want this from a partner

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the tangled web we weave when pictures of others we choose to keep! Let me sprinkle a little bit of my relationship magic here. First off, your feelings? Completely valid. Discovering your partner has been saving pictures of other gals, especially in a not-so-clothed state, can be a shocker and stir up a whirlwind of emotions. It's like walking on a sunny beach and then—bam!—a storm hits. It's not about the body image; it's about respect, trust, and boundaries.

Your beau might be in the land of fantasy, not realizing he's setting off fireworks in your heart. But, darling, guilt for your discovery? Shove that aside. Your discovery was accidental, like finding a hidden treasure, except this one's not sparkling with joy.

Now, onto the what to do: Communication is your magic wand. Wave it by having an open, honest convo about how this gallery of gals makes you feel. It's not about accusing but sharing your feelings. Maybe he's clueless about the impact. If the relationship is a priority for both of you, navigating this storm together can strengthen your bond.

Remember, you're not overreacting. You're reacting, and that's perfectly fine. Always trust your feelings. If something doesn't sit right, it's worth bringing up. Keep it flirty, keep it fiery, but most importantly, keep it honest and clear. Love, like life, is a wild ride, so let's make it the best one, shall we? 😉

[jahaims]

He beats off with them