What can you NOT accept in a partner?

[ManOnFire]

What would be the thing/things you wouldn't be able to deal with or accept in a potential partner?

[Anonymous]

if they are:

Abhorrent
Abrasive
Abusive
Addictive
Aggressive
Agitated
Amateur
Ambiguous
Amoral
Angry
Angst-ridden
Annoying
Antagonistic
Anti-social
Anxious
Arrogant
Artificial
Artless
Asinine
Aspersive
Assailable
Autocratic
Avoidant
Awful
Babbler
Backbiting
Backstabbing
Bad-mannered
Banal
Barbarous
Barren
Bawdy
Belittling
Belligerent
Bigoted
Bitter
Bizarre
Blase
Blind
Blundering
Boastful
Boorish
Boring
Bossy
Braggart
Brash
Brutal
Brutish
Bullying
Bumptious
Burdensome
Callous
Cantankerous
Careless
Carnal
Caustic
Censorious
Chauvinistic
Clannish
Closed-minded
Clueless
Clumsy
Coarse
Cold
Cold-hearted
Complacent
Conceited
Condescending
Confused
Conniving
Contemptuous
Contentious
Contrary
Cowardly
Crabby
Crass
Crazed
Crazy
Criminal
Critical
Crude
Cruel
Curmudgeonly
Daft
Damaging
Debauched
Deceitful
Defamatory
Defensive
Degenerate
Degraded
Demeaning
Demoralizing
Dense
Dependent
Derisive
Desperate
Despicable
Despiteful
Destructive
Devious
Difficult
Dim
Dimwitted
Discompassionate
Discontented
Dishonest
Disingenuous
Disloyal
Dismissive
Disorderly
Disorganized
Disparaging
Disrespectful
Disruptive
Dissolute
Distasteful
Distracted
Distraught
Disturbing
Dogmatic
Doltish
Dominating
Domineering
Dramatic
Dreadful
Dreary
Drudging
Drunkard
Dull
Duplicitous
Dysfunctional
Egocentric
Embarrassing
Envious
Erring
Exacting
Excitable
Exhausting
Extravagant
Extremist
Fanatical
Feckless
Feeble
Fickle
Fiendish
Foolish
Foppish
Foul
Fractious
Frenetic
Frenzied
Frightened
Frivolous
Frothy
Furtive
Garrulous
Gloomy
Gluttonous
Greedy
Grim
Gross
Grumpy
Gullible
Gutless
Halfwitted
Harmful
Harsh
Hateful
Haughty
Hedonistic
Hellish
Horrible
Hostile
Hurtful
Hypocritical
Hysterical
Iconoclast
Idle
Ignoble
Ignorant
Ill-bred
Ill-mannered
Ill-natured
Immature
Immoral
Impatient
Impertinent
Impetuous
Impious
Impolite
Impractical
Improper
Imprudent
Impudent
Impulsive
Inadequate
Inane
Inappropriate
Inconsiderate
Inconsistent
Incorrigible
Indecorous
Indiscreet
Indolent
Ineffectual
Inefficient
Inescapable
Inhibited
Insecure
Insensitive
Insidious
Insincere
Insipid
Insolent
Insufferable
Insular
Intemperate
Intolerant
Intransigent
Intrusive
Invidious
Irascible
Irksome
Irreligious
Irresolute
Irresponsible
Irritable
Irritating
Jealous
Jittery
judgmental
Judgmental
Juvenile
Knavish
Know-it-all
Labile
Lackadaisical
Lame
Lascivious
Lazy
Lecherous
Lewd
Liar
Libertine
Loathsome
Long-winded
Loquacious
Loud
Loutish
Low
Lukewarm
Lurid
Mad
Maladroit
Malcontented
Malevolent
Malicious
Malignant
Malingering
Mandatory
Maniacal
Manipulative
Maudlin
Meek
Megalomaniacal
Melancholic
Mendacious
Merciless
Messy
Mischievous
Miserable
Misguided
Mocking
Monotonous
Moody
Morbid
Morose
Mundane
Murky
Naive
Narcissistic
Narrow
Narrow-minded
Nasty
Needy
Negative
Nervous
Neurotic
Nihilistic
Nitpicky
Noisome
Noxious
Oblivious
Obnoxious
Obsessive
Obstinate
Obstreperous
Obtuse
Odd
Odious
Offensive
Ominous
Oppressive
Overbearing
Overblown
Overemotional
Overwhelmed
Overwrought
Painful
Paranoid
Passive
Passive-aggressive
Pathetic
Pathological
Patronizing
Pedantic
Peevish
Perfidious
Perverse
Pessimistic
Petty
Petulant
Pharisaic
Phony
Pitiful
Poisonous
Pouty
Pretentious
Prideful
Procrastinator
Profane
Punitive
Quarrelsome
Queasy
Querulous
Questionable
Racist
Rambunctious
Rancid
Rancorous
Reckless
Remiss
Remorseless
Repellant
Reprehensible
Repressed
Repressive
Reprobate
Repugnant
Repulsive
Resentful
Restless
Retaliatory
Reticent
Revolting
Ridiculous
Risible
Rude
Ruthless
Sadistic
Salacious
Sanctimonious
Sappy
Sarcastic
Scandalous
Scornful
Screechy
Secretive
Self-centered
Self-conscious
Self-destructive
Selfish
Sensationalist
Senseless
Shallow
Shameful
Shiftless
Shifty
Short-tempered
Shy
Silly
Simplistic
Sinful
Single-minded
Skittish
Slanderous
Sleazy
Slimy
Sloppy
Slow
Slow-witted
Sluggish
Sly
Small-minded
Smug
Sneaky
Snide
Snobby
Sordid
Spineless
Spiteful
Stagnant
Stern
Sticky
Stiff
Stingy
Strange
Strife-ridden
Stupefying
Stupid
Stuttering
Sublunary
Sulky
Superficial
Surly
Suspicious
Tactless
Tasteless
Tawdry
Teasing
Tedious
Tense
Terrible
Testy
Thin-skinned
Thoughtless
Threatening
Timid
Tired
Tiresome
Tone-deaf
Totalitarian
Touchy
Toxic
Tremulous
Tricky
Trite
Truculent
Unappreciative
Unapproachable
Uncaring
Uncharitable
Uncivil
Unclean
Uncommunicative
Uncompetitive
Unconcerned
Unconfident
Uncooperative
Uncreative
Unctuous
Uncultured
Undermining
Undisciplined
Uneducated
Unethical
Unfriendly
Ungoverned
Ungrateful
Unhealthy
Unhelpful
Unimaginative
Unintelligent
Uninteresting
Unjust
Unkind
Unknowledgeable
Unlikable
Unmannerly
Unpalatable
Unpleasant
Unprincipled
Unproductive
Unrealistic
Unrefined
Unreflective
Unreliable
Unreserved
Unruly
Unscrupulous
Unseemly
Unsightly
Unsuitable
Unsympathetic
Untactful
Unteachable
Untoward
Untrustworthy
Unvirtuous
Unwise
Unwitting
Unworthy
Unyielding
Vain
Venal
Vengeful
Venomous
Vicious
Victimized
Vile
Villainous
Vindictive
Violent
Virulent
Vulgar
Wanton
Wasteful
Weak
Wearisome
Whiny
Wicked
Woeful
Worrier
Worthless
Wretched
Wrongheaded
Xenophobic
Zealot

[adam6402]

LOL😂😂 I'll second all of that

[exitseven]

if she was into dope.

[ManOnFire]

Agree 100% on this.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[PeachyPie93]

A person who hides their phone, best friends with girls, abusive physically or mentally, bad morals, cheats, smokes cigarettes, goes out alone to clubs/bars, compliments other women in front of me/flirts with other women in front of me, stays out all night, hides or lies about where they are or who they are with.

[ManOnFire]

Couple of these hit home for me, particularly hiding their phone, I hate that shit. Like using phone screen hiders.

[PeachyPie93]

I know, like I don't get the big deal when you are seriously dating why the need to hide it unless you are up to something.

[Apple1996]

Shallow

Caring too much about looks

Lack of sexual discipline

High body count

[ManOnFire]

Caring too much about looks. That's one I hate too.

[Apple1996]

Forgot to add but also if they are bad with money

[ManOnFire]

That's a really good one too.

[destinybedoya]

SHALLOW CARING TOO MUCH ABOUT LOOKS LACK OF SEXUAL DISCIPLINE

[destinybedoya]

CARING TOO MUCH ABOUT LOOKS THAT'S ONE HATE TOO

[destinybedoya]

FORGET TO ADD BUT ALSO IF THEY ARE BAD WITH MONEY

[destinybedoya]

THAT'S A REALLY GOOD ONE TOO

[adam6402]

I could accept all of those on their own (not all together), except a high body count will always be a dead no for me. I can't accept anyone with a higher body count than me, and I'd respect their decision if they didn't want me if my body count was higher than theirs.

[Valdemort]

• No hygiene or lack thereof.
• Unable to take feedback; getting defensive; no self-reflection; playing victim.
• Overtly loud... no thanks.
• Badmouthing others, just for the sake of it.
• Lack of (self) respect.
• Endless pessimism.

[ManOnFire]

All of these are very solid.

[destinybedoya]

All of these are very solid

[Anonymous]

An inordinate amount of time on social media. Constant badmouthing of exes and/or my gender (both indicative of victim syndrome). Constantly talking about what they "deserve." In order to get a paycheck, one has to PUT IN WORK. So I don't care what she thinks she's entitled to... only what she shows. This is where Americans come up woefully short, and it's why the word "dysfunctional" is most commonly used to describe their relationships and families. What one puts out, they're more likely to get back.

[b_lova]

We all need room to grow, experiment and make mistakes, so I can't be with someone who refuses to forgive. If she is going to hold my mistakes over my head, we can't move forward in a trusting relationship.

[ManOnFire]

This is a good one. But do you mean your PAST mistakes that she wasn't there for? Or ones you made with her?

[b_lova]

Both. And keep in mind they could be small or large. One of my exes would claim to forgive me of things then bring them up during arguments, especially when I was directing a complaint at something she was doing that hurt me. I can't fully blame her because I made huge mistakes when we were young but after 18 years of you can't let it go then I had to go. I should have seen the pattern of unforgivness when we were young but didn't realize it was so deeply engrained. She would hold on to the smallest slight from everyone and refused to take ownership of her own.

[ManOnFire]

Yeah, that sounds like most women honestly. They hold on to stuff but want their own sins to be forgotten. I think it's a toxic trait of women in general, but when you finally walked I'll bet it was a wake up call for her.

[b_lova]

Yep it hit her like a ton of bricks. Even though I had been talking to her about it for over a decade her denial was so much she wouldn't listen until after I had made the decision to leave. Sadly once I was committed she changing her tune which made me feel like she heard me all along but didn't care because she didn't think I would leave and that was also the wrong answer. It only made the hurt worse.

[Insecure2]

There are probably many things that seem unacceptable, but for me IT would be:

1. Lack of respect (if I show him respect I expect to be given IT too).

2. Violence both physical and mental.

3. Unwillingness to provide support. I'm talking here about financial and emotional support. I expect that both parties will work and share the cost of living as well as doing household chores and when something bad happens I can have a shoulder to cry on just like he can.

4. Cheating.

5. Expecting me to adjust to everything, whereas he never does.

[DextroShade]

I have a list of deal-breakers:

• Fat
• Baby momma
• Feminist/woke/leftist
• Sex worker
• Tattoos
• Piercings
• Danger hair
• "Boss bitch"

[ManOnFire]

Tattoos is a big one for me too.

[PeachyPie93]

LOL what is danger hair?

[DextroShade]

@PeachyPie93 hairstyle that is either cut short (under shoulder length), is dyed bright colors, and/or shaved on the sides.

[adam6402]

Lol this is such a true list😂

[DishLady]

1. Dishonesty or shady behavior.
2. Passive answers that leave people confused.
3. Stalling on rather than expressing an opinion directly.

[ManOnFire]

"Passive answers that leave people confused."
Anything a person does that is unclear is always a red flag for me.

[DishLady]

Indeed.

[adam6402]

Your third point is always such a pain in the ass and makes a relationship way too difficult

[DishLady]

Agreed!

[blueonblack22]

You just asked the magic question for a lot of women on here. Long long laundry lists are forthcoming.

[ManOnFire]

Lmfao. I was already expecting thots to show up with all their ridiculous "icks."

[blueonblack22]

It’s funny because more often than not they will end up either rejecting a man who meets all their requirements (because he’s lack of “challenge”) or falling in love with one who meets very few if any of them. They make most of their dating decisions on “feelings” unless it’s about money.

Not all of them of course. I’ve seen a few good ones in my life and I’m happy for them and respect them. But for so many others is the same old same old.

A simple rule of thumb is do not have higher expectations for the person you are dating than you have for yourself. In our “gender equal” society that’s not much to ask.

And to be fair this goes both ways. Sometimes guys are delusional (but very few if any of them can get away with it).

[Knightwatch27]

Not being Christian
Thinking an open relationship is okay
Hating or "disliking" animals
Materialism as the highest goal in life
Feminist or otherwise pridefully opposed to traditional gender roles

[ManOnFire]

"Materialism as the highest goal in life"
That's one I can't stand either. Seems to be so many people are aspiring for that.

[WintersDaughter]

If they aren't Jewish, if they don't want kids, if we have different morals/values.

As long as the foundation is good, then everything else can be worked through.

[sage2021]

Lying to me, on illicit drugs, cheating of any kind, not being courteous and talking nice to me like I would him. Any abuse. Yelling at me. Standing me up and not calling. Being rude. Not being nice to other people. If he was an atheist.

[At3mis24]

He wears a beard (I don't like facial hair)

He's unfaithful and too horny (I don't want a porn actor)

He drinks alcohol too much (If he's drunk once, it's finish)

[ManInChains]

Cheating
Abuse
Sex
Feminism
Leftism
Too much I would not accept so I just prefer to stay single

[OtterMan68]

Dishonesty. Selfishness. Gluttony. Sloth. Wrath. Anger. Greed. Jealousy. Self-absorption.

[ManOnFire]

Mix of deadly sins in here lol

[DrPepper12]

If she wants children. I did my diaper duty already 3x. That's not happening.

[ManOnFire]

Can't blame you on that.

[DaBiggestBird]

Neutrality/opposition to towards God

moral low ground

Nazi

Biden supporter

Animal abuser

constant bitterness

[mayurr]

-An unfit body.
-Was in any relationship with someone else before me.
-Is not religious or spiritual or don't believe in karma & have bad habits.

These 3 will never be accepted by me.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Besides cheating. Being rude or causing me problems and stress.

[Samantha36]

Rubbish in bed

[JHAYES317]

@samantha36 but they can’t control having a small d

[ManOnFire]

@JHAYES317 Lmfao. Pretty sad for them then, huh?🤣

[JHAYES317]

@ManOnFire you lack empathy…not an admirable trait

[ManOnFire]

@JHAYES317 You can have a small dick and still know how to use it. The problem is the small dick dudes don't know how, and aren't trying to. All they want to do is feel bad for themselves and try to make up for it by acting macho and getting hot cars. I don't have empathy for that.

[JHAYES317]

@ManOnFire because you are saying they have to compensate for it lol…that’s the issue.

[ManOnFire]

@JHAYES317 They don't HAVE to compensate for it. They choose to. Instead of growing a pair like a real man and just learning to perform better with what they have. I work around a ton of these small dick dudes who care only about hot cars, video games, and anime, and they get jealous of men like me who has a way with women and has bigger thoughts than them.

[JHAYES317]

@ManOnFire sounds like you are saying they have to, if they want to achieve the same results as someone with a big d

[Samantha36]

@JHAYES317 I didn't say having a small dick.

[ManOnFire]

@JHAYES317 They will have to put in more work with their dick, is what I'm saying. Anyone who has something lesser will generally have to work harder than the person who has an advantage, that's simply the law of life. Or they can always get penis enhancement surgery, or supplements.

[JHAYES317]

@ManOnFire supplements don’t work lol. And another option is simply if you are lesser at something, recognize that you can never be the best and thus don’t try, my pov is if you can’t be the best in the world at something, you shouldn’t bother trying.

[ManOnFire]

@JHAYES317 That is a very pessimistic view.

[JHAYES317]

@ManOnFire I grew up as a child prodigy. I’m used to being better than most people at certain things.

[ManOnFire]

@JHAYES317 Yet your complaining about small dick-ism lol

[JHAYES317]

@ManOnFire because my point is that guys with small dicks shouldn’t have to try harder since it’s not objectively a flaw only subjectively.

[MemeSupreme]

lying, too much of a horndog, mean, no goals, shallow, and just normal shit

[genericname85]

them having children from another man.

[ManOnFire]

Wow, brutally honest lol

[genericname85]

it is what it is. not trying to be brutal or whatever xD

[ManOnFire]

No, I totally getchu.

[Jennz6]

No smoking 🚭

[ManOnFire]

Amen to that.

[Jennz6]

@ManOnFire 🥰

[DrPepper12]

Good call!!

[Chazmatazz269]

No lies
No hypocrisy
No cheating

[TommyMountainFigure]

A lack of respect is at the top of my list,

[Jefftheduck]

Biggest one avoidance

[Jkgordon]

Broke with bad hygienr

[MsProsperity]

Female friends

[ManOnFire]

Wow. That's interesting. Can you explain why?

[elaphe]

Lack of faith, drug use.

[Whitedog1]

No religious congruity.

[Account]

I can write an entire book.

[Agape93]

Controlling behavior

[Anonymous]

Liberalism