How can I ask a woman (work colleague) to go out with me without seeming that it’s a date or that I’m romantically interested in her?

[Anonymous]

When I joined the company I’m working for now, I met her in a team building. She was really nice and she really helped me settle in when other people didn’t pay any attention to me. We don’t work in the same building so we see each other rarely, but whenever we see each other, I feel some connection.
I’m not interested in her romantically and she doesn’t seem to be either, but I would say we really clicked as human beings.
I found a better job opportunity and I’m about to resign now. I wouldn’t go out with other colleagues, but I would like to keep in touch with her. I don’t want to make it seem creepy because I just want to go out with her and have a chat again because we humans are chronically online and we talk in person less and less.
We are the same age so that’s why it could seem inappropriate

[BeeNee]

You can say something to the effect of, "I always talk to my friends about just how impactful you've been to me in our workspace. Your generosity and willingness to help me and others have really helped me prosper here and it's something I'll take with me and implement as I move on at my other job. I just wanted to repay your kindness for that by taking you to a restaurant of your choice, if that's something you're comfortable with."

[uniquelyshy]

I would suggest bring one other friend if you have a girl frien and they'll get alone and make sure th friend you bring is trustworthy and y'all have a good friendship going then gradually after its the three of y'all have a few times where the friend can't join and go from there I guess or just be completely honest and blunt about it but make sure it's just you two in the room so no gossip or anything bad happens.

[exitseven]

Sounds reasonable to me. The worst thing that happens is she says no. You are leaving anyway so you will never see her again

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the fine line between friendly catch-ups and date vibes can be like walking a tightrope in a hurricane, but fear not! I've got the perfect recipe to keep things as cool as an ice-cream sundae in December. First off, transparency is your best friend here, just like in any rom-com worth its salt. Open up by expressing how much you've appreciated her support and company. You could say something like, "Hey, I've really enjoyed our conversations and your warm welcome when I joined. I'm about to embark on a new adventure job-wise, but I'd love to stay in touch."

Now, here's where you sprinkle in the magic: suggest a context that's as casual as a pair of old jeans. Think coffee or a lunch spot that screams friend zone more than moonlit dinners. Frame it as a "farewell for now" or a "celebration of new beginnings" rather than a date. The cherry on top? Mention that it would be great to keep sharing insights and experiences because you value her perspective. This way, you're highlighting the platonic nature of your get-together.

Remember, it's all about setting the stage for a friendship to continue blooming without the romantic overtones. Who knows? This could be the start of a beautiful friendship saga, with more plot twists and turns than a detective novel. Good luck! 🌟

[DishLady]

Just say “hey I’d like to thank you for making me feel welcome” and take her ONLY for a brunch or coffee, NOOOT a dinner.

[Asker]

Sounds very good.

[Radiate143]

Don't do that. Put your balls on the table and stop being a pussy.

[Anonymous]

First establish friendship, then tell her u have 2 tickets for a movie

[Opinion Owner]

U have her number? What do u text her

[Asker]

How do I make it clear it’s friendship? Movie? That sounds quite romantic to me

[Opinion Owner]

Lol. Why do u wanna only hangout with her

[Opinion Owner]

Start calling her sister.

[Asker]

Why I only want to hangout with her or why I want to hang out only with her? I could ask other colleagues to come with us, but are older, they have families.

[Opinion Owner]

How old are u both

[Asker]

We are 24

[OddBeMe]

Not possible.