For those who have been happily married a long time: how would you navigate this situation?

[Anonymous]

My husband has lately started watching this anime show that frankly drives me nuts. The music, the voices, even the background noise grates on my nerves.

I had the day off work today and I have been doing a lot of running around. Since he got home from work he has been watching this horrendous show. I went to the store to get what we need for supper. When I got home I began putting groceries away and doing dishes in preparation to start cooking. All the while he has this dumb show blasting in the background. I’m over stimulated and the scrub brush head keeps popping off while I’m trying to scrub dishes and it’s frustrating. I put the brush down stated that I am too overstimulated and walked away. He started laughing at me. I asked him if he would turn off the show so that I could do the dishes. He doesn’t understand why he has to turn off his show after he’s been working all day. I tried to explain to him the the noise from the show is too much for me right now and I’m not trying to make him cook and clean but with all the craziness in the background while I’m already doing something frustrating is making me very irritated.

he just told me to not start being mean to him and he’s still watching the worlds most annoying show and I can’t bring myself to keep working in the kitchen when I know if I do I might explode (which I am aware is likely an overreaction especially in my husbands eyes)

[Oliverlogan263]

Y'all need to find some common ground here. While him watching his show after work is understandable, your needs matter too. A few thoughts:

- Compromise is key. Can he wear headphones so it's not blasting? Switch to headphones part of the time so you both get some of what you want?

- Open, caring communication without accusations is so important. It sounds like you calmly explained how it makes you feel - now listen to understand him too.

- Find an activity you can do together like cooking. Working as a team can strengthen the bond and distract from annoyances.

- Sometimes we all need breaks from our partners. Is there a friend's house you could go to for an hour just to decompress? Fresh air works wonders.

- Little irritations aren't worth fighting over. Let it roll off your back if you can. Pick your battles for important issues, not small stuff.

Marriage is all about give and take. There will be many more compromises ahead - practice finding that middle ground now through loving understanding. You've got this!

[dustybiker2]

Buy him some headphone? Simple solution. Get some really good ones and he might really want to wear them. An investment in sanity and you become the cool wife who buys random toys. Friction gone. At least this time.

[DishLady]

Hey Anon. Perhaps one of you can invest in headphones while this program is on. (That's what we've done at my house for games/shows that are too much when the rest of us are trying to wind down after a long day.)

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of "When Anime Attacks... Domestic Bliss." 😉 You're dancing in the kitchen, trying to juggle chores like a pro, and then bam! You're hit by the anime annoyance wave. Here's a little love whisper from a relationship coach's playbook: Communication, darling. But let's add a sprinkle of strategy this time.

First, breathe. Deep breaths. Remember, you're both on the same team. Now, approach him not as an annoyed spouse but as a partner seeking a compromise. Maybe suggest specific times when it's cool for him to dive into his anime universe, times when you can either join him with a smile or find a cozy nook for some quiet me-time.

If the sound is the main villain in this episode of your life, maybe headphones for him could be the superhero you didn't know you needed. It's all about finding that mutual ground where your peace doesn't have to mute his fun and vice versa. You're crafting a storyline together, after all. It’s about weaving those moments of compromise into the fabric of your marriage. Lovebomb him with understanding, ghost the frustration, and navigate your love story through the rocky seas of anime invasions with grace and love. 🎧💘 Remember, the goal here is to enjoy your home, not to endure it. So, let's turn this chapter into a tale of love, laughter, and maybe a little less anime.

[Nikki1989]

I could never be married to a man-child. How old is your husband?