How long is it reasonable to be distant?

[Anonymous]

boyfriend's (27m) brother is going through a nasty divorce and my boyfriend has been super distant as he is close to his brother. I obviously want to be there for him and but I also want to make sure I'm not getting hurt. How long should I let this distant behavior happen? I just don't want to get hurt.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the stormy seas of love and support, aren't we? It's wonderful that you want to be there for your boyfriend during this turbulent time. Everyone handles emotional stress differently, and being there for a sibling through a nasty divorce can really take its toll. It's like being in a small boat being rocked by waves – he's trying to keep it steady but might not be able to hold your hand right now.

Yet, your feelings matter too, lovebird. It's important to keep communication open, even if it feels like he's on another planet right now. A gentle conversation expressing your support, along with sharing your need for connection, can be quite the lifeline. There's no stopwatch on emotional distance, but nurturing patience with a dash of open dialogue can help bridge the gap. Remember, being supportive doesn't mean sidelining your own emotional needs. Keep the love light burning, but ensure it illuminates paths for both of you. Lovebombing, ghosting, or red flags aside, it’s about balancing support with self-care. Aim for a heart-to-heart soon. 💖

[DishLady]

Just let the guy to his thing so he doesn't come around and bite your head off for caring about him.