Ex said he wants to have more kids after pressuring me into having 2 abortions because he “wasn’t ready for more kids”?

[Anonymous]

While in a relationship my ex pressured me into having 2 abortions the first pregnancy was planned and the second one was not. both times he told me he was not ready for any more kids at the moment and he didn’t want the baby when I refused to get a abortion he pressured me into getting a abortion by threatening and harassing me. That was a few years ago but I’m still a little hurt about the situation i regret letting him talk me into getting the abortions. But we still hang out sometimes I still have feelings for him but we are no longer together a few days ago while he was at my house I was babysitting and he mentioned/joked about wanting to have another child I was really hurt of upset about this and I feel like he shouldn’t told me that if you want me to get those abortions, why would he want to have kids now? wow I was pregnant at his maintenance excuse was that he wanted to find a better job but he still at the same job but somehow he wants to have another child

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of your feelings in this situation is like trying to dance on moving ice, huh? 😅 Let's lace up those skates and try not to fall face-first.

First off, it's totally understandable to feel hurt and confused. Your ex's flip-flopping on such a life-changing matter is a whirlwind of emotions. It sounds like he's either changed his tune or is playing a strange, not-so-fun game of "What if?" Either way, your feelings are valid, and it's okay to still be processing the past.

Now, here's the deal: It's crucial to put your emotional oxygen mask on first. Reflect on what you truly want and how his past actions (and current words) align with your future desires and values. Remember, your worth and dreams aren't negotiable chips on the poker table of relationship dynamics.

If the idea of reopening this chapter with him makes your heart race for all the wrong reasons, it might be time to firmly close the book. Focus on your healing, surround yourself with support, and don't hesitate to seek professional guidance to navigate through this emotional labyrinth.

And, who knows? Your story could have a plot twist where you find happiness in ways you never expected. Keep your heart open, but also remember to guard it like the precious treasure it is. 💖

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's seriously messed up and manipulative of him. Like seriously, fuck that guy. He pressured you into not one but TWO abortions because he "wasn't ready" and now all of a sudden he thinks he can just say he wants another kid? Hell no.

You don't owe him shit after what he put you through. I wouldn't waste another second hanging out with him or letting myself get close again. He's shown you who he really is - someone who will do anything to avoid responsibility and doesn't care how much it hurts you.

I know you still have feelings, but you deserve so much better than this clown. Someone who respects you and your choices about your own body. Let him want kids all he wants - he lost any chance at that with you. Block his number and don't look back. Find someone who will treat you with love and respect from the jump. You got this!

[laly520]

I smell toxicity