Would you abandon everything just to chase love?

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I've watched a lot of friends abandon their lives -- work, home, family, friends -- to go chase love... or what they thought was love... just to come back home with their tales between their legs and a pile of heartbreak and paperwork to dissolve their relationship.

I've also watched many friends try to manage a relationship while "playing defense" -- never really committing either because they've been in bad relationships or have observed so many bad relationships that they've become jaded and skeptical of everything.

So now I'm curious... would you abandon everything for love? (Y/N, but please explain why...)

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(*Tails, y'all. Sorry for the typo.)

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Thanks to all those who posted!

A special shoutout to @OlderAndWiser and his lovely new bride. Wishing you both a long joyous journey. 🎊 🥂 🍾 🥂 🎊

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Abandon EVERYTHING? No.

I would not abandon my religious beliefs, ethics, or morals. I would not abandon ny family or my country. I would not abandon my profession.

I would be willing to make a woman a very high priority in my life, and I have done that on a few occasions. Yes, involves some element of risk, but. . . you've gotta take a chance if you wanna find romance!

I have no need to do that ever again, as I married Miss Helen on April 27 this year.

DannyUk2017 · Accepted Answer

I did... when i was... Young... Stupid... and Blind... Now? Not anymore.. f That! Better to be Safe than Sorry...

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic tale of chasing love across the horizon, leaving everything in the dust! It's like something out of a movie, right? Here's my spicy take: Love, oh sweet love, it's tempting, it's alluring, but abandoning everything? That's a heavyweight title for a possibly fleeting feeling. I’m all for following your heart, but let’s not leave our brains behind. 😜

I wouldn't abandon everything for love, and here's why: Love should complement your life, not upend it. True love thrives on mutual support, not sacrifice. It's about building bridges, not burning them. Imagine two stars in the sky moving closer without losing their shine—that's the kind of love story I believe in, one where you don't lose yourself but find a shared path instead.

Remember, love is not just about the dizzy highs but also holding hands in the lows, without losing sight of who you are or your dreams. Keep those feet on the ground while your heart soars, folks! 💫

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I have done it and hopefully I’ll never do it again.  The way I was obsessed over it, I’d do something amazing if I got obsessed with self-improvement instead.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not anymore, that ship has sailed a long time ago

kmg9150 · Answer

Unfortunately for most guys they will do this at least once in their lives. I say unfortunately because once they do, the woman is almost guaranteed to respect him less. She might say a bunch of positive things, but deep down she will think he has a lack of self preservation to the things in his own life…. Its not wow he loves me this much to change all these things to be with me, but rather wow he cares that little of his own life’s direction he will just give it up for a female. …

In the end I gave my life up to raise a child I couldnt create myself. Id be glad to raise another child, but I wouldn't give up my current life to do so…not for anyone

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

No, and here's why:  I don't believe in soul mates . I think we are actually potentially compatible with any number of people and could be happy in a monogamous relationship with one of them. So many people end up married to one they claim is their soul mate, and then meet someone else and start wondering if they are actually their soul mate, and then go chasing after that and realize that, no, that person isn't their "soul mate" either. It's crazy! So, no, I wouldn't, because if there are enough barriers I am going to lean pragmatic, simply because I'm not one to think "They are the only person in the world!". :D Great question! <3

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Miss dish how can i abondon everything and everyone for a love that i don't know if exists or not? If i abondon my house, where will i bring her to live? If i abondon my work, how can i take care of her and pay for everything and how is she going to be a housewife?

How can i abondon my whole heracy and country? What about my mother who only have me ans what about my son who see me as his everything...

I'm here, if god wants me to fall in love than he will send her in my way 😌

ManOnFire · Answer

I don't think I ever would. So many relationships that seemed like perfect gold in the beginning ended up being complete demolition sites, like you said. I've seen that myself.

I also think if you're abandoning everything for love then you can't possibly understand what real love is. Real love would not require that.

sawno · Answer

Obviously not everything, I always make sure there is a point of return in case the relationship fails. But for my last relationship I was prepared to move countries, and that does imply leaving some stuff behind or at least transitioning that to something digital.

Crimsyjo · Answer

No I wouldn't. I can't. I'm a mother and i also have my own education and career goals. If a love is meant to be it will work with you not against you.

That doesn't mean I'm not willing to sacrifice, compromise or make room for love. I just wouldn't ever give up everything nor expect the other person too.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I don't think so. I am well established where I am at this point in my life, so chasing love is not really an option. I have too many people where I am that rely on me, so can't be that aloof.

Iron_Man · Answer

That doesn’t get me anywhere I’ve never been successful. nothing last forever. Everything is just to enjoy the moment then they disappear on me. I’ve only had one long-term relationship. And now three years of an Internet chat LDR. There’s no loyalty anymore. Everybody wants power and wants everything there way or it’s the highway, even in friendship

ryanrhino · Answer

Definitely not. Balanced the head and the heart is tough, but the long term view is much better than letting your heart lead you, which often doesn't help stability.

Minky17 · Answer

No. I want my lover to accept my family and my environment. If my environment needs changing, I'll leave but if I have family to take care of - they're coming with me.

leon55six · Answer

Cannot abandon work. For a working healthy relationship, it's important for me to be able to provide for my partner, give her a good life and make sure that her parents are in approval for me as a choice for their daughter.

I cannot make a girl go against her family because I don't want my daughter to be raised with that example in future.

MicahRaine · Answer

I would not abandon everything  just  to chase love.  That said, I would abandon everything (or almost everything) to start a new life if necessary. Which interestingly enough is exactly what in doing.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Yes I should have done that. I didn’t and I regret it but then I don’t know what could have happened if I choose love. Maybe bad thing could happen. I saw the sign 666 and I ran away

legalboxers · Answer

if I felt it deep inside I would. I should of...

katiesmuff · Answer

Tried it once, but never again as I learned a hard lesson.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

That's the craziest thing I would (n) ever do.

exitseven · Answer

No, I would not do that. The odds of coming out on top with a bet like that are pretty slim.

Emmytexrex · Answer

That's a good question I would not I am someone that likes to know and relate with my partners parents and friends

waterliliestxt · Answer

No, love will adapt in my life it will not make it harder.

Juxtapose · Answer

If she was for real and actually loyal? Yeah, I'd drop it all for her and become one.

JohnK123 · Answer

Depends on if it’s pure love then yeah but the other person would need to feel the same way

NathanDavis · Answer

sorry... I do need gravity

handsomelad70 · Answer

Perhaps for a buxom blonde.

Chevy1_kb · Answer

No chance it's not worth it to me anymore

paledreams · Answer

Hell, likely not. 🙃😅😆😅

PA19062024 · Answer

I hope not. If I ever do, please stop me.

CubaPirate · Answer

The hell nooooo

MisterWack · Answer

Yes yes yes

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I couldn’t do it

LiamJHayden · Answer

No, I would not.

Willoughby23 · Answer

I pretty much do the opposite

eagle1951 · Answer

not anymore

MacDaddyRico · Answer

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