Have you ever dated a guy and while in the relationship suddenly wanted to upgrade?

[Anonymous]

So I just give context I treated her good and was always by her side. There was an age gap between us I was 31 she was 23. Anyways she didn’t initially have an issue with our age gap then sometime during the relationship she started talking about how women live longer then men and because I was 31 started treating me as if I was an elderly person saying I was so old and after the relationship it got even worse like she went into the relationship perfectly fine know our age gap how does ageism come out of nowhere or between that and the other physical abuse she put me through was that just her mental illness surfacing cause she had previously been in a abusive relationship and was somewhat bothered I wasn’t like him

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[Anonymous]

She’s young and still immature, when I was her age all I wanted was to explore, always on the lookout for something better. I think she probably realized that she wants someone that’s closer to her in age bcs she’s still in her adventurous and spontaneous stage - she probably realized that you were in two different life stages.

It doesn’t help that she was previously abused, unhealed abuse survivors usually see healthy relationships as “boring” bcs they’re used to the volatile nature of an abusive relationship, basically they want that “excitement” even though it’s toxic.

[Asker]

I’m glad that you mention that because she did mention abusive elements that her ex did that I wouldn’t do and I was thinking this is insane she was also still friends with him on social media. But honestly I probably won’t date again I was fully invested and to see that this is what dating is I rather just remain single

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it’s better to not rush into dating, better take it slow until you find someone who is mature and emotionally and mentally secured

[DishLady]

Sounds like she was just childish. You need someone a bit more mature who “gets” you and knows how to treat a guy.

[KrakenAttackin]

Every female is always looking to upgrade. She is only as faithful as her options.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the twists and turns of love and relationships, right? It seems like you navigated through some rough seas with your partner. Age suddenly becoming an issue could be a bit of rationalization on her part, perhaps seeking a "logical" reason for her changing feelings or dissatisfaction within the relationship. It's not uncommon for someone to grasp at tangible reasons like age differences when they're feeling disconnected or unsure, especially if they're processing past traumas or unhealed wounds from previous relationships. The shift from not minding the age gap to highlighting it dramatically, paired with the unfortunate physical abuse you mentioned, suggests there might indeed be deeper underlying issues she's wrestling with, possibly stemming from her past abusive relationship. It's important to remember, though, while understanding and empathy are key, ensuring your own well-being is paramount. Love should uplift, not weigh down. Always prioritize mutual respect and care, and don't forget to protect your heart and well-being along the journey.

[jahaims]

Nope