What would you do if you find out a girl you were talking to was talking to other guys?

[Anonymous]

So my co workers best friend convince e me to ask out another friend who just got out of a long-term relationship. I did ask her out on a date after 2 weeks of thinking about it since I just got out of a long-term relationship myself with a God digger who left me after I lost my job. I have been going on dates with my co-worker, April, who brings me snacks everyday she told me she needed time before committing to another relationship agin and wanted to self-improve but would love to keep going on dates.

I just over heard her talking to her close friend that she's been going out on dates with another man every single week, and her goal is to find a new boyfriend who makes a lot of money.
I am very pissed off since I thought this girl was different, I had gotten another job offer, and she begged me not to quit our job since she would miss me. After my last relationship ended, I started working out every day. im in the best shape of my life. I work two jobs, and my ex-girlfriend wants me back. Women can't keep their hands off of me. I still suffer from small issues, I get Tigger when women say certain words, and I think they may be after my money. April is a chubby girl and someone who I thought has a great personality, which is why I give her a chance even with her not being my type look wise.

What would you do in my shoes?

[Anonymous]

Quit dating that's buying into the BS at the moment

[jahaims]

Cut contact

[AI Opinion]

Well, strap on your dancing shoes because it sounds like you've stumbled into the salsa of dating dilemmas! Let me paint a picture for you: imagine you're the DJ at your own love life party. You've got two turntables - on one, April with her snacks and sweet nothings, and on the other, your ex making a comeback tour. And then there's you, in the middle, flexing those newly toned muscles and juggling jobs like a pro. 🕺

The beat drops when you discover April's looking for someone to fill her piggy bank with love and, well, cash. It's like a remix you didn't see coming, especially after your gold-digging ex encore. Here's how I see it: You've got the opportunity to take control of the playlist of your life. If April's tune doesn't vibe with what you're all about (authentic connections over financial motivations), maybe it's time to change the track.

Reflect on what turns your tables. If genuine connection and mutual respect are your jams, you might want to consider if April, with her wealth-centric dating strategy, really harmonizes with your soul's lyrics. And about your ex? Remember why she's in the ‘ex’ category to begin with. It’s all about finding someone who vibes with you on all levels, not just the financial ones.

Life threw you a curveball, but hey, it also sounds like you’re on a personal high note. Keep focusing on your growth, your values, and what you truly want in a partner. Relationships should add depth and joy, not confusion and frustration. So maybe it’s time to find someone who dances to the same rhythm as you. Keep those vibes high and those intentions clear, my friend! Let’s find you a duet partner that’s got more than just dollar signs in their eyes. 💃🎶

[DishLady]

Personally, you seem to be very judgy about her and don't seem like you're ready to be with a girl in her position. You're feeling a certain way, like you can obviously do better... then go do better. Rather than thinking about everyone being in YOUR shoes, take a moment to be in HER shoes.

Having been in HER shoes (in terms of a bad breakup), I'd say step back from her. Period. Right now, this girl is:

• still smarting from the past relationship.
• still in need of a few months to breathe (talk to other people, talk shit about men, about what she wants, blah blah blah) before jumping back into the dating pool again.
• not going to be 100% ready for an exclusive relationship for a while. At best you'd be a "rebound guy" right now.
• not actually clear about WHAT she wants right now or in the future; she's just reacting to what she had and trying to work her way past that misery...

Next, TALKING to or about a guy is not the same as F-ING a guy or being with a guy. For some reason men seem to get very touchy on this point. Frankly this ridiculous Wuthering Heights/Pride and Prejudice "overhearing a conversation" thing is a classic reason why the person overhearing something makes a snap judgement about their person of interest.

Being a guy, you probably talk shit about people ALL the time... Don't you think that girls do the same thing? More specifically, MANY people (guys and gals) talk shit to their friends and don't know their person of interest is overhearing their conversation. Sit down and talk with her if what she said bothers you, but getting all cranky about what she's said or not said is very immature.

If you're serious about this girl, talk to her about what's bugging you. If you're not serious about her and just want to sit on your high horse, then keep riding, buddy. She needs something much better than you and your judgement right now.

[Asker]

I don't wanna be with a girl who's going on dates with 6 different men all at once. I know what im worth it, and it's better than her so I'll go find better

[DishLady]

So then go do it and stop whining.

[Asker]

Bet you fun, can you say b I t c g

[BonzoInBitburg]

She's not doing anything wrong but she's not really showing interest so it's probably wise not to waste more time with her