Have you ever had a huge crush on someone and then you find out they are already in a relationship with someone that makes you think Why?

[Finchie40]

Yes it’s jealousy, but it’s also reality, I know people fall for people, for a lot of reasons ,, but doesn’t it make you shake your head sometimes, as to why are they with someone like that? I have crushes on girls’ that are taken already, and at times I feel like she should be mine lol I will talk to her friendly and flirt with her as well , if I have a huge crush on her. But I don’t cross over boundaries, unless she chooses to , at times I will think why is she with a dweeb like that lol yes I get jealous not going to lie , I get jealous about a lot of girls’ that I find attractive that are already in a relationship , and shockingly a lot of people in general lie about their relationship status lol. , but I no my boundaries for the most part, cuz I know there are plenty of fish in the sea But doesn’t it erk the shit out of you at times? Pretty much why I hate having crushes on girls’ that are already in relationships with someone else. Sadly it’s something we really don’t have any control over and why a lot people do not give a fuck if someone is already in a relationship. I still flirt with girls’ that I know are taken , if she is gorgeous to my eyes and i feel we have a good connection , I will let her know how I feel about her not giving a fuck about her current relationship. Especially if I have the hots for her. I will put the ball in her court , and pretty much let her decide what she wants to do , especially if I am head over heels for her. I use to be more respectful to other peoples’ relationships until girls’ I dated were flirting and cheating with other guys’ behind my back , so I realized fuck it , Most people are in relationships with the wrong people anyways , so it’s better to take a chance than not take a chance at all is how I see it. Is it wrong or right? Attraction is a crazy thing. I have slept with married women and girls’ that were already in relationships I realized what she is doing is not my problem. If she is chasing me

[Crimsyjo]

I won't ever cross that boundary and sleep with someone who is in a relationship. I know what your saying... if they are unhappy and cheat on their partner that's not your problem. But you didn't like it when your girlfriends cheated on you. I get if your single your free to do as you wish and sure be friendly and if you feel a connection and they feel it, enjoy it and flirt back then that can't be help. It's human nature to feel attraction and enjoy attention. But personally for me I don't want to be reason someone breaks up. I think it's reasonable to accept you like eachother but ultimately point out to that person that they have a decision to make. If they have feelings for you then they must have issues in their current relationship that needs dealing with. They shouldn't be able to have both. It's not fair on anyone. Even if their partner is a douchbag or dweeb. They need to grow up and take charge of their life. Not hide and then sneak some thrill in secret.

Also on another note... maybe some people are happy in their relationship but having someone pursue them and shower them with attention might push them into a moment of stupidity. That they regret. And ruin their relationship. So I think we, as moral human beings, should have respect enough to leave people in their relationships alone. Admire from afar if you must. But again, being single shouldn't excuse you of all decent morals just to be self-satusfying.

[Finchie40]

No one likes being cheated on , but I am also not going to turn down a girl that I feel is very attractive and coming on to me , yes I will tell her what she is doing is wrong , I don’t just drop my pants and say go for it lol I will try to give her advice on how to fix her relationship but some girls’ are honest and say there is no fixing , he treats me like shit and they no longer spend time with them etc. so if I feel the girl is honest with me? I will more than likely have sex with her and tell her if she wants to continue seeing me she needs to file a divorce or separate from him , on the other hand most girls’ I meet will lie and tell me they are single and I usually don’t find out the truth until after we had Alex a handful of times. So it’s sad how people are on this world

[A_Wild_Redhead]

I feel kinda defeated... that guy is off limits... back to square one.

[Finchie40]

Yea I feel that way as well at times , it’s a shitty feeling knowing they are unavailable , part of you wishes they would break up so you have a better chance at them lol Why I choose to put the ball in her court and let her know that I am interested in her , from my experiences? Some will follow through. You will never know , unless you take the chance , is how I look at things. Especially with a person you are head over heels for , when a girl gives me those tingling feelings , I go for it , because I don’t get those tingling feelings for everyone, so to me it’s a sign that i know, I would cherish that girl the way she deserves to be cherished. So I leave it up to her , on what she decides to do? If she decides to be in my arms than guess what? She really doesn’t give 2 shits about her partner is the way I look at it. We don’t walk around with signs flashing over our heads saying what are relationship status is , or how happy we are in our current relationship, so taking a chance is better than not taking a chance at all. When I run into a beautiful girl that catches my eye , I go for it , because I want to get to know her more , I know nothing about her , she is just beautiful to my eyes and to me that’s all that matters , I rather have an answer than no answer at all

[A_Wild_Redhead]

Well said. If we just crush in secret, nothing is going to happen. I would basically telling fate to find him someone, because I would be doing nothing with these feelings anyway.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But I blame her. Because she was flirting with me and leading me on while she was in that relationship. So while it sucked. In the long run it was the best thing that could have happened. Because it's better to find out that was her nature early on.

[NathanDavis]

no... and nope, I do try not to be judgy like that

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the waters of attraction, especially when it's directed towards someone already in a relationship, is like trying to sail a ship through a storm with a blindfold on. It's thrilling, dangerous, and let's admit, a tad bit naughty, isn't it? 😉 Your feelings are like fireworks – bright, explosive, and hard to ignore. But here's a twist in the tale, lovebombing someone who's taken is like dancing on thin ice. You might be putting your best moves on display, but you’re always a step away from a cold splash of reality.

You've got a point, though. Love and attraction don't play by the rules; they're the rebels of the emotional world, often leading us down paths we swore we'd never tread. But, remember, while it's tempting to let those sparks fly, there's a fine line between being a charming Casanova and crashing into a real-life soap opera.

Is it wrong or right? Ah, the million-dollar question! 😉 The heart wants what it wants, but there's something to be said for taking the high road. Imagine for a moment, swapping places. How would it feel to be the one left in the dust because someone else played their cards better?

Crushes on taken beauties are a testament to the complexity of human emotions – a bittersweet symphony of 'what ifs' and 'if onlys'. But in a world full of connections waiting to be made, perhaps it's not about chasing those who are already caught but discovering that someone who’s free-falling right alongside you.

As for diving into relationships already set in stone, it's a slippery slope. Yes, sometimes people are with the wrong partners, but encouraging someone to leap before looking can lead to a tangled mess of emotions and consequences. It's a game of chance, love, and sometimes, a dash of regret.

So, sail cautiously, my friend. While the sea of love is vast and filled with unexplored territories, respecting boundaries and navigating your ship with integrity might just lead you to a treasure worth more than any fleeting crush – a connection that's truly your own. Love responsibly, and who knows? The next crush might just be crushing back on you, no baggage attached. 💘

[KelsoAlexander]

i have random crushes every now and then but they usually fade after some time. they only grow when the crush i have spends more time with me. i imagine its the same with everyone else.

[Jrg98]

I think that’s a normal occurrence