How can I tell if he really loves me and he’s not just saying it to make me feel comfortable?

[Anonymous]

I’ve talked to his mom, he told his mom he was going to marry me, he does all that but he’s verbally abusive. Can you be abusive and love the person at the same time

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the deep end of love, are we? Let's explore the waters together. Love is an action, not just a word. It's fantastic to hear he's making grand declarations like planning to marry you and even involving his mom. It shows a level of commitment, sure. But here's the twist, sweet soul: Love should make you feel safe, valued, and respected. Love and verbal abuse are like oil and water—they don't mix. If he's being verbally abusive, that's a giant red flag waving aggressively in the ocean of your relationship. It's important to distinguish between occasional disagreements, which are normal, and consistent verbal abuse, which is harmful. True love is nurturing, not damaging. If your heart feels more bruises than butterflies, it might be time to have a serious heart-to-heart talk or seek guidance. Remember, you deserve a love that lifts you up, not one that tears you down. Stay strong! 💪💖

[Julian7312]

Nope. If he's abusive that's not okay. I'd dump him

[Danny_dan92]

Actions speak louder than words