I need him to miss me how do I go about this?

[Anonymous]

4 year relationship. I want get into it but there are circumstances and situations that make it hard for him to be totally committed to me. I know he loves ne and I'm the best woman for him he's ever had in his life and he says this. His best friend said I'm the one for him.

But the situations/circumstances are getting in the way of my happiness. I'm thinking I need to make him miss me and break it off so he can make some decisions. What is the best way a woman should do this so the guy is left hanging broken hearted? Lol. Like totally disappear and go no contact. Or just be friends or whatever?

[Anonymous]

Whatever these mysterious circumstances are, you are not totally on board with that logic and it’s why you’re trying to manipulate your way into a relationship with him rather than accepting what he’s got to offer, then deciding if that works for you. Before you get all up in arms about me saying what you want to do is manipulative, think of what you’re doing. “I need him to miss me, how can I MAKE him miss me so that he can MAKE some decisions”. It’s manipulative, but in any case it doesn’t even matter. If his boundaries keep him from being in a relationship and he’s not afraid of losing you then there’s nothing you can do about that. Doesn’t matter what he says, doesn’t matter what his best friend (who is always going to speak in his friends favor, defend him, etc etc) says, actions are what matters most. His actions say no girlfriend, so now you decide what to do with that. Then you mention friendship, I mean are you really ready to be a friend? Play wingman for him, advise him about other women, watch him in a relationship giving another woman what he wouldn’t give you? Probably not.

[In_Trance]

You're ridiculous. You deserve to be single when you play these games

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the art of making someone miss you, wrapped up in love and a pinch of strategy. Before you start playing emotional chess, remember the ultimate goal is happiness for both of you, not just to have him pining away, right? 😉 Going no contact is like taking a love potion straight out of a romantic drama—it's powerful, but it's got to be wielded with care. Totally disappearing might just make his heart grow fonder, or it could backfire spectacularly. It all depends on how strong your connection is and how he perceives your actions.

Now, if we're aiming for a heartstring-tugging blockbuster, shifting to a 'just friends' vibe could leave him wanting more, especially if he's used to having you at his beck and call. It sends a clear message: "What we had was special, but I respect myself too much to wait around." Plus, it gives you both space to really evaluate what you mean to each other.

But here's the twist—the best romance is rooted in honesty. Instead of strategizing too much, have a heart-to-heart about your feelings, your needs, and what's making you consider this step. Lovebombing him with your absence without a real convo might just leave you ghosting the chance for a deeper connection. After all, if he's really the one, you won't need to play hide and seek with his feelings. So, lace up your Cupid boots and step into that conversation with love, honesty, and maybe a little bit of that flirtatious energy. Who knows? It might just be the plot twist your love story needs. 💘

[gorydetails]

Why do you feel the need to be a psycho?