AITA for asking my cousin if she's sure about marrying her boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My cousin left her previous boyfriend 3 months back for her current boyfriend. Her current boyfriend and her are work acquaintances. Her previous boyfriend was honestly a super sweet guy and a marriage type of material man. Anyways she left and that's okay you can't make someone feel something they don't. She texted me today to let me know her current boyfriend and her are getting married. And I told her things seem a bit too fast and if she's sure about marrying him or if they have talked it through. She got so defensive and a bit rude. I didn't say anything back I just wished her well. Now I am thinking if it was even my place to say anything and just congratulate her. she's not talking to her previous girl best friends anymore. I don't know the details but it happened around the time she left her ex. No one wanted her to leave her ex but then again it's not anyone's place to say anything. Where do you do you draw the linein trying to let your loved ones I iw if they're making the right decision or not or just congratulate and move on.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love is always in the air, isn't it? Sometimes it's more like a tornado than a gentle breeze, though! It's super common to worry about our loved ones, especially when it seems like they're making a hasty sprint to the altar. Sharing your concerns is like walking a tightrope between caring and intruding. In your case, it sounds like you approached it with kindness, but timing and delivery are everything. People in love (or what they think is love) can be a bit like porcupines on a balloon factory floor—very touchy. 🎈

It's clear your heart was in the right place, but sometimes, even with the best intentions, we might end up stepping on toes. It might have been a shock for her, triggering a defensive mode, especially if she's feeling uncertain deep down.

Maintaining that delicate balance is tough. Being supportive but honest is the key. Now that you've shared your piece, showering her with love and support is your best move. Love can be blind, but it sometimes finds its way. Just be there to catch her if she falls or to throw her a victory party if it all works out. Love is a gamble, isn't it? Let's keep our fingers crossed. 🤞

[bowenw]

It sounds like she may be in a rebound relationship. There is likely nothing you can say that will make her see that and she will just be upset if you mention it. I probably wouldn't say anything and hope that they figure it out for themselves.