My boyfriend’s foot fetish making me uncomfortable. How can I talk to him?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend developed a foot fetish about seven months ago, and while I was initially okay with it, it's starting to make me uncomfortable. He’s an amazing partner in every other way—supportive, caring, and always makes me laugh—but his growing obsession with my feet has affected my enjoyment of intimacy. I haven’t brought it up because I know he’s insecure about it, and I don’t want to hurt his feelings or make him feel rejected. I also feel guilty that if he stops, it might frustrate him. How can I approach this conversation and find a compromise?

[RavVid]

Feet are sexy.

Most girlfriends have wanted some sole of foot contact with me as we go to sleep and i have enjoyed that too. It is cute, feels good and is loving. Footsies isn't exclusively a male desire.

You aren't saying what about it is affecting your enjoyment of intimacy and I think you need to tell us in order to get best advice. I could think
1. Only your feet get attention now and your vagina is missing out.
2. You find semen on your feet distasteful and it is damaging your shoes.

If you are not getting to orgasm now than a simple compromise is for him to get you off then he gets to get off how he likes at the time.

In the second case, I say get over it.

While 90% of the time I want to ejaculate in my girl's vagina, I have also wanted to ejaculate on every part of her body from the tips of her toes to her hair. We (men) just like seeing our semen on our girl's skin. With condoms our semen is being rejected.

So it was nice when my girl of the time accepted it on her body. One girlfriend would make a show of massaging it in, which was great as it showed valued my semen.

I do find it a little odd that he has been going at your feet for seven solid months. In my world I conceive a desire to anoint a particular body part but after 3 days max I am back to the vagina. I am not seeing why he would be insecure about anointing your feet.

To negotiate just put it positively as a compliment to you to start with. 'You really like my feet!!!' Maybe he senses you are disapproving and that is why he is insecure.

I don't think there is anything difficult here.

[Mybusiness22]

They are disgusting h@es that you date
Condoms prevent pregnancy moron. Real women wouldn’t go with you and your stupidity

[razelove]

Maybe if you talk to him using sock puppets he'll pay attention. I'd say whatever you say it isn't likely to make too much of a difference, he likely had the foot fetish before you met, and is overriding what you wanted before for what he wants now.

Unless y'all have been together for years rather than weeks or a couple months before he started with it. Also if he's better in every other way, wanting to fondle your feet isn't that big of a deal compared to wanting to actions he wants to do to you.

Maybe start with taking turns, just explain that it doesn't do anything for you, and you need some P in V to get yours. And the more of it you get, the more of those pedicures he sees, or something like that. I don't know, it's not my thing, you know more about it than I do.

[easymfbrezzy96]

Why does it bother you that he likes your feet? To me that's just another plus because he could be attracted to someone else and not you ay all

[Ane99]

The only way how to solve it is communication, tell him why u feel uncomfortable with it. Maybe try to find some compromise.

[jjj101010]

Have u had to deal with this kind of issue?

[Ane99]

@jjj101010 be more specific

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the waters of a partner's unique kinks while keeping the ship of romance sailing smoothly can be a bit of a challenge, but fear not, for it's all about communication, wrapped in understanding and tied with a bow of love! It seems you're in a bit of a ticklish situation, but let's look at turning discomfort into a dialogue of discovery. Start by creating a cozy and non-judgmental space for the two of you to chat about desires and boundaries. Maybe over a cup of your favorite beverage, gently bring up how you feel, emphasizing that it's about finding happiness for both of you in the bedroom. Mention that while you adore his quirky inclinations, lately, they've been tickling you in a not-so-fun way. Suggest exploring other forms of intimacy together, maybe even turning this into a playful exploration of each other's likes and dislikes. Who knows? This could be your ticket to an even deeper connection. Just remember, it's not about nailing the perfect conversation; it's about stepping into each other's shoes—or in this case, feet—and walking together in understanding and love.

[ohsheeT]

Well you can always sit him down. .
Tell him to take off his shoes and sock.
Then grab his big toe and say this little piggy is really cute and nice I really like him

Then next toe.. and say
This little piggy has a foot fetish.. at first. I thought it was cute. But now I don't.

Then hold on to that little piggy and grab the other 4 squeezing bending. Pulling. Them and say in your I. Need a Snickers.. man voice if he knows what's good for him he would stop immediately. .

Other wize the big toe piggy squeeze it just might have 4 broken friends or even missing friends. . Then open up you Snickers and take a bigbite

[coachTanthony]

Tell him you love he has a fetish and simply plan "fetish" nights with him so you can separate his fetish and normal intimacy between the two of you.

[Pirate57]

As a guy with a foot fetish myself. If he’s into it like me you could try being a little more dominant or bossy with him. Set boundaries and make him earn foot play. That makes it sexier to me and you might find another side of yourself you didn’t know you had. Its an opportunity for you to be in complete control of your sex life and i’m sure he will enjoy the fun of pleasing you and getting your permission.

[slatyb]

What is he doing? Tell him how you feel about it. Don't accuse.

[EnjoytheDay777]

Just make clear that it's getting to be too much, a good compromise would be to do things you both enjoy.

[noohair]

The only person you can change is yourself. He can change but that is no him.

[jjj101010]

Hey happy to chat about this, I guess compromise is a good thing. If it’s making u really uncomfortable then u need to talk about it

[Cheerfull009]

It is in between you and your boyfriend, why you ask others?

[Mybusiness22]

Dump the freak