What do you think about this?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend came up with a thought that its a good idea to message a girl I've been paranoid about off of his facebook account. is that weird? he said its to see what she says... why does he even wanna see? i mean i have his password for everything but i can't help but wonder the meanin behind why he would even come up with an idea like that. Then he was saying last night not to worry about it. Im not insecure either, im just trying figure out who I’m dating before it gets too serious.

[RubyFrench]

This is REALLY tricky to answer.




Some would say it's red flag.. but some COULD be wrong!!!




Others could say that its nothing and that your simply being paranoid! ... but really you could be dead on the money by wondering about it.



.. My guess is either you have an extremely loyal laid back dude who just wants you to trust him and is willing to do anything to earn it.




orrrrr you've got a cheeky little sneaker baiting you to get this chicks attention for him OR he might have messaged her already and she's ready for you to hit her up so you'll stop asking questions.




Its most likely going to be one of the two and it sounds like you either have to bite the bullet and trust him or simply just leave him. Don't put either of you through trust issues as its not healthy x Your post doesn't tell much but his actions should speak louder than his words and if he genuinely is telling you the truth id make sure you don't lose somebody like that 🫶🏼 Good luck with it all

[Nikki1989]

Damn, some really awful advice on this thread. This is puts up a huge red flag for your boyfriend.

[AviatorTom]

In general, guys are problem solvers while girls are problem discussers.

In your case, he recognizes that you are not sure about this girl. You wonder if she has feelings for him? So he suggests a reasonable solution... ask her.

When you indicate you don't want to do that, he drops it.

That's very typical male action.

[razelove]

I'm guessing he wants to show you how paranoid you're being. Also I'm shocked he gave you the passwords. I don't even see the point of sharing passwords with my wife. Or asking her for hers for that matter.

Anyway, not everyone is trying to snag his dick, or even notices it like you do.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the heart of your worry, it sounds like a classic mix of trust testing and curiosity, wrapped in a little bit of mystery. It's like peeling an onion – every layer brings a new surprise. 🧅 When your boyfriend suggests messaging another girl just to see her reaction, it's like he's dipping his toes in the drama pool without fully diving in. But why? Is it jealousy, insecurity, or just plain curiosity?

Remember, love, relationships are about trust, transparency, and teamwork, not mind games or tests. It’s one thing to share passwords as a sign of trust, but using that access to play detective? That’s a rom-com waiting to happen – minus the comedy. It’s crucial to communicate openly about your feelings and concerns. If it feels like you’re auditioning for a role in a mystery thriller rather than living your love story, it might be time for a heart-to-heart chat.

In the garden of love, trust is the water that helps it grow. Don’t let the seeds of doubt ruin your beautiful blossoms before they’ve even had the chance to bloom. 🌼

[spartan55]

He's offering that to get you to shut up about it. He's laying it all out for you can see that there is nothing to worry about. Guys who are cheating don't do this. It doesn't like you want to be with him anyway since you are reluctant to clear this up.

[spartan55]

Why the hell do you have his passwords to everything?

[HighValue]

People in a relationship shouldn't be making NEW opposite gender friends. It will harm the relationship.

[Decoded93]

This shows who your boyfriend is, you learned a lesson, now apply it

[ChicoFromThe305]

Sounds like you've learned enough, perhaps walk out while it's still easy

[bowenw]

It sounds suspicious. Did he message her and do you know what about?

[Reijen]

God, you people hang out/date weird people.

[MrGSpotHer]

What is it? 😆