Should I intervene in this situation?

[Anonymous]

My best friend (37M) “Harry” cheated on his girlfriend with one of our mutual friends (31F) “Myra”. Myra was unaware of the fact that Harry was in a relationship because he lied and told her that he was single. Myra was upfront about the fact that she was looking for a relationship, but he told her that he wasn’t looking for anything serious after they slept together.

Myra somehow found out that Harry was already involved with someone else and she also wasn’t willing to be in a friends with benefits scenario, so she blocked Harry and completely went MIA for months. Harry pretty much started stalking her for months. Myra came to my birthday party and Harry is trying to force Myra to be friends with him (complaining that she is being awkward and saying that because they have mutual friends that they should remain friends) although it is clear that she is avoiding him. Myra is polite to Harry, Harry wants things to be like it used to. Myra has told him to focus on his relationship, but he keeps bothering her.

I’ve tried to stay out of this, but should I intervene?

[noohair]

If he is stalking, it would be a police issue. I really don't like to get involved with this type of thing. If Myra asks you for help, what would you be willing to do? Not be friends with Harry? Good Luck...

[Asker]

I’m sorry. By stalking I meant, he kept sending her friend requests, until she blocked him. Then he started sending requests via other accounts. Now he’s watching her on LinkedIn (which is pretty desperate to me).

[noohair]

I don't do the social media thing. I don't get why prople see it as important. Can she shame him on social media? He sounds like a real ass... e

[Asker]

She can, but she hasn’t said anything about him or the situation (that I’ve seen), hasn’t bad-mouthed him within our circle, or even told his girlfriend, so I’m confused as to why he is doing all of this. As his friend, he asks me for advice but I just tell him that this is above me and try to stay out of it.

[noohair]

Yes, try to keep out of it. Good Luck.

[Staximus]

She needs to tell him to fuck off so he gets the message. If he doesn't get the message after that, then tell him to leave her alone. If he doesn't get the message after that then kick his ass.

[Nikki1989]

No, stay out of it. Not your problem.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the stormy seas of relationships and their dilemmas, aren't we? Okay, let's dive in! When Cupid's arrows go awry, things can get sticky, and it sounds like Harry is making a tangled web stickier by the minute. Myra's clearly set her sails to avoid the Bermuda Triangle of drama, and Harry? Well, he's trying to navigate without a compass.

Intervention can be like walking a tightrope over Niagara Falls - thrilling, but oh-so-risky. However, considering Harry's veering into stalker territory and you're caught in the crossfire of awkwardness and tension, it might be time to don your superhero cape (metaphorically, of course).

A heart-to-heart with Harry could be the way to go. Remind him that real knights in shining armor respect boundaries and that his armor's getting a tad tarnished. Harry needs to understand that "no" means "no," not "try harder."

Dealing with these love battles requires finesse, courage, and perhaps a little flair. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to help Harry see the light, respect Myra's space, and focus on mending his own relationship—or at least, reconsider his approach to friendships and boundaries. Good luck, love warrior! You've got this. 😉