What to do in this situation?

[Anonymous]

My ex girlfriend left me a month ago on my birthday for a second year in a row and for 2023 has left me over 5 times for different reasons. I either play my PlayStation when she’s around and gets upset, doesn’t meet her at her car when she comes over to walk her from the curb to the front door, i don’t show enough emotion on the level she wants every single day. After she left me the last time i made a hinge account and her friend just found it and she recently tried getting back with me again and saw the account and said she couldn’t be with me anymore and I’m just like any other guy blasé blasé. This is the past and it probably doesn’t matter but last year she sent me screenshots of her texting another guy out of disrespect and was defending him when we argued after the photos. She left me after that and texted the new guy because i didn’t unfollow every girl on all my social media accounts. Since i stayed with her after what she did i guess i was expecting the same since we weren’t together when the account was made.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn dude, this chick sounds nuts to be honest. Leaving you all the time over dumb little things, snooping through your stuff, talking to other guys... seems like way more drama than any relationship is worth.

You could try sitting her down for a serious talk if you really want to make it work still. Lay it all out - the dates she bailed, other guys, trust issues. Tell her straight up that shit ain't flying anymore and it's her way or the highway.

But honestly man, from the outside looking in, I say cut your losses. You can do way better than someone who treats you like an option. Next time she "tries to get back with you," I'd say peace out for good. Have some self-respect.

Focus on you for a while. Hit the gym, ball with the boys, get your grind on. Soon as you stop chasing her ass is when some new cutie will come along who actually likes you for you. Don't settle for less than you deserve bro!

If it's meant to be, maybe down the road when you're both grown you can revisit it. But for now, next bitch alert - she belongs to the streets! You'll thank me later once you're free of that drama.

[InnocentB1tch]

Girls like little things like you mentioned yourself “walk her to the front door”. It makes you feel like your partner cares about you. She thinks that you’re a bit cold and just trying to get some feelings and emotions out of you… to prove that she’s actually important. Therefore she’s breaking up with you to make you understand what you lost her and expects that you will finally start acting…try to get her back etc. probably she was trying to make you jealous with those texts for the same reason and of course it made her angry when she found out about account as you did the opposite from what she expected you to do. If you really want to be with her just start paying more attention and do the little things to show her that she’s special to you..

[Asker]

It’s been about a year since that dispute with the texting another guy but since then she’s left me literally 10+ times. I don't know how you expect someone to show you the little things if they don’t even know if that persons going to stay? You know what i mean? The more she kept leaving the less feelings i had for her.

[InnocentB1tch]

Then it is the perfect time to finally move on if you’re losing feelings. Breaking up so many times is quite childish and seems like it’s already something casual for her, maybe because she knows that you always agree to get back together even after all those break ups. If currently you are not together try to date other people and if she will want to get back tell her straight that you got tired of this break up thing and don’t want to start everything all over with her as you know what it will end the same :)