Is it typical to develop romantic feelings for your rapist?

[Anonymous]

[ManOnFire]

This is called Stockholm syndrome, and I honestly don't really know how common this is. Although, rape does cause a lot of mental and emotional damage to a woman, so it could be more common than we think and it's just not something most victims will ever really talk about. I've known women who came out and said they had been raped at some point in their lives, but they never said anything about feeling romance for the rapist.

[ProbablyClueless]

No, but there are lots of situations where similar things happen and there are psychological explanations for that behavior. I think the one is called Stockholm Syndrome, where someone who is held captive and gets abused in a really fucked up way starts to empathize with their captor/abuser as a survival mechanism.

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, love. This situation can be confusing and emotionally complicated. It's not uncommon for people who've experienced trauma to have mixed feelings, often due to mechanisms like trauma bonding. These feelings can be difficult, but remember, they're a reaction to a very complex situation. It's super important to talk to a professional about this, as they can provide guidance and understanding. You're not alone in this. 🌸

[ohsheeT]

There's a roleplay app that I like to go to and role play

And a couple years ago I started talking with this girl and we talked quite a while and she said can I tell you something and I said okay sure

And she wanted to tell me something that she's never told anybody before and something that happened to her while she was younger and as she told me everything

There were moments where I just couldn't believe it because said there was no way that a girl at that age would say or do her like what she was telling me so I would listen and listen and listen and there were moments where I just could not believe it and then there was moments where I believe her 100%. But then after she was all done telling me we started talking on the phone and she wanted to start role playing this and that was kind of confused because I was thinking maybe I should be helping her instead of feeding into it

And the more I talk to her about it the more she wanted to go play it and she went as far as telling me that she wanted to go back to where this guy was she was at a young age and then she did what she did for 4 years with this guy and she said that she loved him and she wanted to go back and see if he was still there

And I guess I just dropped a couple times because she said you don't understand I wanted it to happen and she wanted me to role play it with her and I told her well I would role play with her but I can't role play that with her I mean I can roll she's 24 now I mean what happened to her was when she was way way younger and I just couldn't get into that but I said I would role play with you as a 24 year old but she told me she was in love with the guy so I don't know and she's a super good person I mean she's not out there she's not I mean she's just a good person but something happened where she fell in love with a guy I guess so I don't know if it's typical or it's just a thought of the things that they did that's what it kind of seemed like to me she wanted to re-experience that I mean I took the things that she had told me and I took it even further at her age now and I could make her have six seven orgasms on the phone like she lived in an apartment complex and there is no way in this world that nobody heard her LOL but she said that she could feel my words and I don't know if it's she felt my words and she just wanted to feel that guy again but I just thought the whole thing was strange I'm super curious about it I'm even super curious if it's you and you have developed these romantic feelings for because I would like to know more about it and how that happens or why you think that happened because I've always wondered that about her I haven't talked to her for probably about two and a half years but I've always wanted to ask her that

[Asker]

I can assure you that it's not me; I'm in my 30s. Thank me for sharing this story.

[ohsheeT]

Thank you. And I think it's a really good question. And that was always curious why my friend or the person that I talk to why they felt the way they felt I still don't understand it

[BetaBucks]

No, and don't let people bullshit you with Stockholm syndrome claims. That's unique to captors. Of course captors can also commit rape, but that's unrelated.

[Agape93]

It's a trauma response, not actual romantic feelings.

[Nirmroth]

In this case listen to what the AI said, solid response.

[boggboss]

It can happen as a way for your mind to deal with the truma

[Anonymous]

Depends usually not it's more feelings get twisted and we decide that our brain should fully accept what our emotions decide.

It's not healthy and should be talked about.

[Ironic_Method]

Not typical, but certainly not unheard of. Your body and your logic can get confused in this situation.

[jahaims]

I don't think it's typical but it can happen. It's an unhealthy way for the brain to cope with the abuse.

[CVNT5]

dam thats how you get a girl?
Time to get busy then...

[Asker]

This is not a joke but a serious question.