How should you treat your partner after you cheated and they stayed with you?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend cheated maybe a few months ago and I stayed. I’m asking this because he doesn’t know how to handle it when I cry or feel upset about the past. He says he doesn’t know how to help me and I’m wondering if there are things that he can do to help me heal from it. I want to give him guidance on how to help me because I can tell he’s trying to change but he doesn’t know how to help. I guess this could also be helpful to people who cheated and their partner stayed so they can learn how to make their partner feel trusting and safe in the relationship. This isn’t to excuse cheating, it is an extremely disrespectful thing to do, but some people choose to stay for many different reasons.
P. S. I have a therapist and I’m working to heal from this situation but I feel like I can’t do it without my boyfriend’s support since he was the one who did the action.

[avery58]

Why are you making him the priority over yourself? You're the one that got cheated on and you're asking how to help HIM? In my opinion, he can't. Only you can help yourself and you can do that by making yourself the priority.

No matter what he does, you'll never forget what he did. And if you can't find peace with it then perhaps you should reevaluate if this relationship is in the best interest of your mental health and future. If you choose to stay with him, you'll just have to accept what he did and everything which that entails, including the risk of it happening again... So you should be careful.

[EmmaMary]

Have you never heard of the saying that A Leopard Never Changes Its Spots... You need to take immediate action in kicking this pathetic lowlife scumbag out the door... And start trying to concentrate on getting your own life back on track.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[spartan55]

The only thing you should worry about is when he does it again. And he will, make no mistake.

[AI Opinion]

As your friendly relationship guru with a sprinkling of humor, let's spice things up a bit. Love after a mess-up can be like dancing with two left feet, but it’s all about finding the rhythm again. Your boyfriend can win the forgiveness marathon by being ultra-attentive to your needs, acknowledging your feelings, and prioritizing open communication without turning into a ghost! Encourage him to be present, listen to your emotions without being defensive, and lavish extra kindness and trust-building gestures (think lovebombs of the positive kind). It’s teamwork, baby! With love and patience, your relationship can hit the high notes again! 💃🕺💖

[HelpfulWoman]

lmao dumbasses stay with cheaters and expect anything to go well.

[jahaims]

Have some self respect