Am I an asshole if my soulmate had kids with someone else that me personally don’t think it would work between us I mean what would she want with me?

[CP0729]

[Nikki1989]

Yes, but I thought that would be obvious.

[CP0729]

How does this makes me an Asshole if I don’t want the relationship because of that?

[spartan55]

No you're an asshole for using the term 'soulmate'.

[CP0729]

But if I feel it through god that she my soulmate should mean I’m a asshole if she has a kid if I can’t provide or if I was jealous because she hurt me to the point that he got her she always gonna have a mind of her ex baby father I just don’t want find her attracted anymore

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to dish out some wisdom, straight from sunny California! 🌞 It’s not about being an "asshole"; it’s about understanding what you want. If her having kids feels like a dealbreaker for you, that’s a valid feeling. Consider if you're projecting a bit of self-doubt there. After all, she gets to choose you too, kiddos or not! Relationships are a two-way tango, where both partners deserve happiness, so keep your chin up and remember love can be as unpredictable as California weather! 🌈✨

[Anonymous]

Nope. It a perfectly legitimate concern.