Is it weird to want to do a three some with your boyfriend and his best friend?

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so im in a committed good relationship with my boyfriend and we have been together for a long time and one of his friend that I'm starting to become friends with is looking a bit more fine then normal, and I was thinking about normal sexual fantasy about my boyfriend and he came into play, I'm never going to act on it but what do you guys think?

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Having fantasies is normal and healthy, because you allows you to experience something in your own "virtual reality" without ever doing the fantasy in real life, and then you can respond to the VR. Like, I got mad at someone decades ago and I fantasized about killing them, although I had no intent of ever doing anything to harm them. Just fantasizing about it made me feel guilty and it reinforced all of my inhibitions.

There will always be guys that you see who are attractive and you may feel some desire to have have sex with them. The test of your relationship is not whether you have temptations, or fantasies, about other guys; it is whether you act on those attractions or desires.

Has your boyfriend every asked you for a threesome? Is that something that you really want? For many relationships, a threesome is the beginning of the end, and especially if the third person is a close friend.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Fantasies are normal , acting on them is 50/50 chance , you are best to talk to your boyfriend first before even considering that fantasy of yours , if he loves you and cares about you , he isn’t going to want another guy having sex with you

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’ve done it. I wasn’t necessarily attracted to his best friend though. It was just a fun kink that both my boyfriend and I share so we decided to ask his best friend to join in because we both feel comfortable with him.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

Some will find it weird, others won't. My advice... Don't worry about other people's views. As long as everyone is on board completely, Just be safe and have fun.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I’m here to spice up relationship perspectives! It's perfectly normal to have fantasies, even if they surprise you. 😏 Fantasies often remain just that, so there's no shame in letting your mind wander. If you're contemplating involving another person in your relationship, it's a big step! Always prioritize healthy communication, trust, and mutual consent – they're the cornerstones of any enriching relationship experience. Remember, fantasies don’t necessarily need to turn into reality. Stay curious, and keep things exciting in your relationship! 💫❤️

NathanDavis · Answer

if you're fantasizing about any scenario on the kinkier side that's normal, it happens... many if not all do it and are open about it, some others do it but won't admit it or keep it to themselves... maybe it might feel weird to do you if a first time this happens to you but it's nothing that "weird" everyone fantasizes about something at some point, now...

even if you actually wanted to act on it... it could be really weird for your guy to be suggested or asked to go into a threesome with another man, lol... that might weird him out till kingdom come... or who knows, maybe he's game and would be curious about it

Makeushiver · Answer

It's not uncommon as a fantasy. Definitely in top ten. Nancy Friday has a collection of woman's fantasies in book and audio book form and that's definitely in top ten though there are variations about# of participants it's always minimum of one woman and two men. I've spoken to a woman on this forum- or at least used to- and her fantasy about multiple men had recently happend. Once I realized how popular that was I've been involved as second or third man. It's different from a menage a trois. In yours and similar fantasies though multiple people are involved the\ only star of the show is a woman who gets 100% x 2 or 3 attention paid to her

__Nikki__ · Answer

Is it weird to fantasize about? No, not at all. But if you want to try and make it happen that's totally different and potentially very risky to bring up, unless you know your boyfriend is likely to be into the idea.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Nah, a lot of trolls on here want to do it.

Marcia1218 · Answer

The hubby had his best friend come upstairs and get in bed with me one night when they were drinking... He asked me once out of all his friends who I would want to be with and I told him!

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not weird at all and very normal for many couples that are not insecure in their relationship.

WhitneySnow · Answer

That’s a cool fantasy but I’d recommend not doing it for real

TallAnon · Answer

Probably not weird to fantasize about, many guys will want to involve a pretty friend of their girl.
Actually commiting to it is uncommon and many couples end things quickly after because the dynamic changes a lot.

LiamS95 · Answer

It's not something I would want in s committed relationship. Not that I'm the jealous type, just that I don't really want to share the love of my life.

Iron_Man · Answer

You’re basically thinking about asking for permission to cheat, but in front of him with his permission that way you don’t get in trouble

convo_king89 · Answer

We all have our turn ons and fantasy. As long it’s not illegal go for it.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

It's not weird, but I don't think your boyfriend would enjoy hearing about this fantasy.

Christopherthegreat · Answer

I’ve wanted similar tbh! But all girls instead

dfdfdffffdfdf · Answer

u may want to talk to him , many guys like to get cucked , turn fantasy ino reality

Woyboy · Answer

Bring it up about a 3some and see what he says. No need to say who it will be with Have you tried DP with a toy and a dick.

MicahRaine · Answer

As a fantasy, I'd say it's pretty common

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Only if you or they think it is.

bowenw · Answer

It is a very common fantasy.

woahhh152 · Answer

You are not committed if that's what you want

jjj101010 · Answer

What would ur boyfriend say

maj1nall · Answer

No, it should just be mine.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Smh..

jahaims · Answer

Emotional unhealthy

zombiewoof · Answer

Sounds normal

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