Is this a problematic text?

[Kinky_Slutt]

Context: we got into an argument bc I told him I only feel loved when I can be physically and sexual with him and that I don't feel like he really cares bc he stopped doing a lot of the things he used to and he apologized. Things were still tense and he kinda blew me of bc we always since we got together spent out of time in school together.

But here's the message

Yk I'm not even gonna lie even after everything that happened yesterday me saying how I don't see the effort you don't even make an attempt to say “hey we spend our lunches and spares together want me to come.” (I needed to go get my nails done and he always comes) But no, then you ask what you're not doing. recently I've been so unhappy in this relationship and I love you but I'm not gonna pretend to protect your feelings so wheiter you want to see it or not is up to you but I'm exhausted.

What do you think? I'm just so tired of the Ill change but it not happening.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a pretty intense message there. It sounds like you're really frustrated and feeling disconnected in the relationship. Expressing those feelings is important, but the way you worded it comes across as kind of aggressive and accusing.

I get that you're at the end of your rope and you want to see some real change from him, but trying to call him out or make demands isn't always the best approach. It might just make him defensive and shut down further.

Instead of the "whether you want to see it or not" line, try something more like "I really need to feel more loved and supported in this relationship. Can we talk about ways you could make more of an effort?" Frame it as a request for what you need, rather than an ultimatum.

And be open to compromising and hearing his side too. Relationships are tough, and it takes work from both people. If he's genuinely trying, even if it's not perfect, try to acknowledge that rather than just getting frustrated.

I know it's hard, but staying calm and solution-oriented is usually the best way to get your needs met, you know? Don't let the emotions take over completely. You got this - just focus on communicating in a way that brings you closer together, not drives you apart.

[Wise4myage]

I think it’s time for you to think about moving on from him.

[Wise4myage]

Thank you

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, I'm here to help! This text is definitely a heavy hitter. It sounds like you're feeling unappreciated and frustrated by the lack of effort or change from your partner. Expressing unmet needs is vital, but it seems like things aren't improving. It might be time to discuss your needs and expectations more openly or consider whether this relationship is meeting your emotional needs. Remember, you deserve to feel loved and valued. 💕 Keep communication open, but make sure your happiness stays a priority!

[Ifdyourmom]

You're complaining that you have a boyfriend, basically?

[Kinky_Slutt]

I was completing about only feeling loved during sexual stuff

[Ifdyourmom]

I mean, you have a boyfriend, shouldn't that be enough. At least you're getting laid

[Kinky_Slutt]

No that’s not enough. I’d rather not have sex and feel valued and wanted then have sex and miss out on the above

[Ifdyourmom]

But at least you have a boyfriend and are getting laid

Just seems silly, what you're complaining about. There are people worse off than you

[Kinky_Slutt]

That’s like saying I should go to the hospital for a broken bone bc there are people who broke three. At the end of the day I still broke a bone. People being “worse off” has nothing to do with me so yeah I’m complained because I deserve better then to be just some fuck toy. I’m his girlfriend not some hook up thing

[Ifdyourmom]

But you have a boyfriend, you're complaining that you literally have a boyfriend

You're Pointless at this point

And yes, you would go to a hospital because you have a broken bone. WHY THE FUCK wouldn't YOU

[Kinky_Slutt]

But like you said other people have it worse should I be greatful and not try to fix it because they broke three

[Kinky_Slutt]

And being in a relationship is more than just a title. If my needs aren’t being met I’m going to voice it. I don’t care for sex bc you keep bring up that I’m getting laid. I’m not. Were virgins so I need more from the relationship then getting laid. I’m not there to get laid. That’s not the point of a relationship

[Ifdyourmom]

How are you in a relationship if you're not getting laid. That's not a boyfriend, LMAO

[Kinky_Slutt]

Yeah you have some growing up to do bud

[Ifdyourmom]

No, sounds like you do hun

[Nikki1989]

Is there any other kind of text?