How do I get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me without sounding needy?

[Anonymous]

I feel like he’s always distracted, whether it’s his phone, games, or work. Even when we’re together, it feels like I’m invisible. I don’t want to sound clingy, but I miss how things used to be. How can I bring this up without causing a fight?"

[ohsheeT]

Create a moment instead of wondering why or how just do it create a moment that will turn into another moment that will lead to another moment and you do this enough times he will always want to do it when you first started dating you each were creating new moments to experience new things it's the same thing

[emeraldsaphire]

I'm in the same place right now to be honest. He's attentive sometimes, but a lot less then I'd like.

Keep in mind it's the holidays and there could be other stuff going on too. So try to look at things from his shoes. If you want to do something with him simply ask him and see where that goes. I know that's hard though. I hate being direct.

[PeachyPie93]

You usually can't.. but you can ask him if he wants to watch a movie or do something with you instead. If he turns you down, you can either start doing your own thing and hanging out with your friends more often or you could dump him since he doesn't make you happy.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Clingy, needy... Depending on your personality, his personality and how this relation is being experienced, personally, for you both, it can be fairly easy or terribly hard to communicate simple things like the sensation of missing someone. Good luck 🍀

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, helping folks like you ignite that spark again is my jam! 🍓 Maybe surprise him with a spontaneous date night or start a new hobby together to refocus his attention. You can also express your feelings with a little humor. Perhaps try, “Hey, remember me? Your fabulous partner vying for some spotlight time!” This approach can lighten the mood and open up communication without sounding like lovebombing. Remember, sometimes a little playful nudge goes a long way! 😊

[Finchie40]

A relationship works both ways , don’t just wait for him to come to you , Go to him and plan a date night and spend some quality time together

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

It kinda sounds like your boyfriend is taking you for granted. I mean, you shouldn't expect a guy to be in "courtship mode" during the entire relationship, but you make it sound like he's almost going out of his way to ignore you.

Maybe try developing some other interests that don't involve your boyfriend. Something you can do if your boyfriend is too busy or distracted to pay attention to you. If your boyfriend doesn't want to have a conversation with you, you can just go to the archery range, and do some target practice.

If he just lets you go, then no great loss. Or if he realizes that you're not a doormat, and he needs to treat you like you're a real live human, and not a ghost, that will probably be better for both of you.

[Alwayreckles93]

Your man is selfish and useless. I can't stand guys like that. You must always be number one on his mind. I bet this men has not even propose to you. My advice tell him to meet up and explain how you need a serious relationship talk like an adult if he continues to act like a child. He isn't worth your time.

[david]

It's important to express your feelings gently on this subject. You can tell her, "Sometimes I feel a little neglected when I spend time with you." This way, you share your feelings without being accusatory. At the same time, you can make suggestions for spending quality time together.

[Shiprex]

Talk to him or do something that would distract him and bring it up respectfully. Say things like "I love it when you do xyz behind my ear or play with my hair etc." then ask whether he likes it WHILE he's doing it. That way you may trigger in him an attachment and reward signal so his brain relates the positive reward of your cooing and purring as he's doing something and it's made clear to him this is what happens when he does that kind of thing.

[rosemilk]

tell. him. how. you. feel. PLEASE. or you will won't get this issue solved and you'll resent him and be lonely as he doesn't even know you feel this way. if this causes a fight, you two aren't compatible.

[CuriousMoonFox]

Walk around in sexy underwear. When he tries to help himself to the buffet deny access until he agrees to your list of demands (max three items).

[scottie]

I understand how frustrating this can be. The key is to phrase it in a way that doesn't sound like a complaint. Try something like, "I enjoy being around him, but I miss when we had more quality time together." If he cares, he'll make an effort. If he doesn't care... that's a red flag.

[Abbycado]

Plan something together. Suggest a date night (s).

[Nikki1989]

Clearly communicate your needs and feelings. Use “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. If he has half a brain, he should get it... hopefully.

[AManOnTheWeb]

Plan a game night together. Old school like cards or a board game. Turn everything off and just have fun together. Make it a regular thing.

[Garud]

Mundane life always comes in between the romantic times, few people give you very good suggestions except those who are provoking you

[Stevepro68]

It's best to talk to him the Chris Voss way. Look him up it's a good way to deliver bad news without being accusatory.

[slatyb]

Tell him what you are feeling. Don't tell him what to do. If he doesn't respond, decide if you want to continue the relationship.

[CarolinaGirl5]

You're 30-35 years old acting like a toddler. Grow tf up and gets some friends like a normal person. Its not his job to be your freaking bestie get a a life

[HighValue]

Have you tried playing those games with him to take an interest in his hobbies?

[StevenMcGarrett]

Ask to talk to him. Suggest no phone time and/or zones so it can be just you and him. Tell him how you are feeling. Good luck.

[Quigly]

Needy is the act of being in a relationship. If your boyfriend has a problem with your needs. Maybe he is the wrong person for you.

[cinema75]

Do something that is an activity together, that requires full attention (away from phones even.)

[KrakenAttackin]

Maybe you need to do more than just show up.

[Anonymous]

I have always found that a good and unexpected blow job ALWAYS got my attention!!!

[bananathunder]

put your hand on his penis

[serious_miss419]

Sounds like you’ve out grown him.

[kaucky1]

Morph into other girls

[khya_baldwin]

just talk to him honestly about how you’re feeling

[Anonymous]

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