Do you ever feel like a fool for developing feelings for someone?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Yes I do. I fell in love with a guy who broke my heart. He dumped me and now I'm left feeling so bad. I don't want to feel this way. It hurts.

[missindiana93]

Yes all the time. Especially back then. Now i have a husband who's with me forever. So no more bad decisions.

[Asker]

Good to hear you found your forever person

[Anonymous]

No. Do you feel like a fool for developing feelings for someone?

[Asker]

Yes I do

[Opinion Owner]

Why?

[Opinion Owner]

What happened?

[Asker]

It just made me realize that I'm just not good enough, so I feel foolish whenever I develop feelings for someone, because who would want me

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you think that you're not good enough?

[Asker]

Comparison to other guys, disappointment with myself, not having any real talent, etc

[Opinion Owner]

Don't compare yourself. Who care what other guys do. Why are you disappointed with yourself? It's okay if you don't have talent or maybe you do and haven't found it yet.

[Asker]

I think it's reasonable to compare, it shows me where I stand with women. Why would a woman want me when she could have a better looking guy, or a taller guy, etc.

[Opinion Owner]

Because she loves you?

[Asker]

I guess, I don't really see myself as "lovable"

[Opinion Owner]

Why not? It sounds like projecting your thoughts onto her. Maybe she doesn't think the same. Maybe she thinks you're really loveable?

[Asker]

That would be hard to believe, but I will admit that I do project my self hatred a bit

[Opinion Owner]

Please don't hate yourself. God loves you.

[Asker]

I question whether that's true

[mandyfire98]

Only once in my life

[Asker]

If you're comfortable with it, Is there a particular reason why?

[mandyfire98]

He turned out to have narcissistic personality disorder.