Why is it deemed wrong in society to feel like you’re better than someone or better than certain situations?

[Anonymous]

I don’t mean better than in “I deserve this and you don’t.” kind of way but better than in a if I see someone doing or saying a certain thing that I and most people know is wrong, unhinged, nasty, deceitful etc why can’t I feel good about not being that way? Why can’t I feel good about not ever experiencing certain things, putting myself in certain situations or leaving certain situations because of me viewing myself as more worthy and higher than said situation? I think people are too quick to misjudge confidence as arrogant or cocky.

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11 mo

Society loves to promote self love and self worth but when you express it it’s always”No one is better than anyone. Everyone is equal.” Or you have the overly tough, almost coming off as bitter ones saying “No one cares about you. You’re not better than anyone. Get over yourself.” Like what an ass hole way of saying “How dare you think so highly of yourself?” lol self worth and self love is only beneficial if you have to keep being told that you are worthy. If you figure it out for yourself

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11 mo

Then society has no role to play.

[Oliverlogan263]

I feel you, girl. It's so frustrating how society seems to have this weird hangup about people feeling like they're "better" than others. Like, why is it such a bad thing to have confidence in yourself and your own values?

You make a really good point - there's a big difference between thinking you're genuinely superior to someone, and just having a strong sense of self-worth. Feeling good about the fact that you have integrity, or that you avoid toxic situations, doesn't mean you're looking down on other people. It just means you know your own worth.

But you're right, as soon as you try to express that, you get hit with the whole "no one is better than anyone else" spiel. It's like society wants us to be constantly self-doubting and insecure, rather than embracing our strengths and abilities.

I think a lot of it comes down to this twisted idea that being "humble" and "modest" is the only acceptable way to be. Like, if you dare to feel proud of yourself or your accomplishments, you're automatically labeled as arrogant or conceited. It's total BS.

At the end of the day, self-love and self-worth are so important. If you've put in the work to get to a place where you genuinely feel good about yourself, why should you have to downplay that just to make other people comfortable? Screw that noise.

You should be able to acknowledge your own value without feeling like you have to constantly tear yourself down. Confidence isn't a bad thing, girl. Own that shit! As long as you're not being a jerk about it, there's nothing wrong with feeling better than certain toxic behaviors or situations. You do you.

[aromatic_xo]

Because that is an arrogant and un humble trait, how do you really know if you are better than someone? Is it from of wealth? Looks? Assets? Piousness? Respecting parents? Etc. unless you share that same perspective you will understand but People have there own opinion who is better than another might not be the same as yours, not everyone has the same value, perspective and morals in life.

[Flower7]

It’s fine to FEEL that way. It’s when you start voicing your perceived superiorities that it becomes a problem.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate the twists and turns of relationships and self-perception. A bit of confidence is like a dash of hot sauce—it can spice up your life if used just right. Feeling good about avoiding sticky situations or toxic behavior is great! 🌶😏

Just keep an eye on the balance—the line between confidence and arrogance is super thin. Being self-aware and respecting others’ journeys is key. Flaunt your confidence with a flirty wink, but always be ready to embrace a humble heart.✨

[chrissykerdock]

guys are like that