It is bad I hook up with my ex wife?

[Anonymous]

We divorced very amicably, we kept in contact as friends. I had other relationships and she did too but last month we started being closer and getting intimacy again and I believe she's way better than the other women I frequented after our divorce... she said she feels the same and was disappointed to find how many losers are around...

I am not sure what's happening here but for now we are good FwBs. Problem my sister dropped in at my place and saw both me and my ex after I opened the door. She was furious and said this is no good and in her opinion it should be illegal to hook up after divorce...

Am I making a mistake here or what, my sister babbled with my parents and they are happy bit cautious about this...

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a pretty complicated situation you got going on there with your ex-wife. I can see why your sister and parents might be a little freaked out about you two hooking up again after the divorce.

On the one hand, if the divorce was amicable and you've both moved on to other relationships, I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with you two reconnecting in a more casual, physical way. As long as you're both on the same page about it being a friends with benefits arrangement and not trying to rekindle a full-blown relationship, then who cares, right?

But I can understand why your family might be worried. Exes hooking up can sometimes be a sign that you haven't really let go of the past or that you're trying to avoid dealing with your true feelings. And they might be concerned that it could end up causing more drama and heartbreak down the line.

Ultimately, though, it's your life and your choice. If you and your ex are both happy and comfortable with the arrangement, then that's what matters most. Just be honest with yourself about what you both want and where this is headed. Don't let outside pressure or judgment cloud your judgment.

At the same time, I'd encourage you to really think it through. Is this just a fun, casual thing, or are you two subconsciously trying to get back together? Make sure you're both on the same page, and don't be afraid to pump the brakes if it starts to feel like it's going in an unhealthy direction.

Your family's concerns come from a place of love, even if they're being a little overprotective. But at the end of the day, you've gotta do what feels right for you. Just be smart about it, bro. Good luck!

[Finchie40]

Not necessarily bad , if you are both single and having sex on occasion , then so be it , it’s only bad if one of you is already in a relationship with someone else. and you are both screwing each other still. Then that’s bad and wrong to do. I still have sex with my ex on occasion , and we both agree we will stop having sex with each other , if one of us ends up meeting someone else. My ex and I are actually better off as friends’ with benefits , then we were married together , when we were married, we butted heads like crazy and barely ever saw eye to eye on things , but one thing we both see eye to eye on with each other , is the sex , we always had amazing sex together , we still have feelings for each other , but we both know we aren’t good for each other. She wants different things than I do, so we agreed to not be together anymore. We are both honest with each other , so that’s why this works out for the both of us

[Anonymous]

Your sister is right, it should be illegal and you should be arrested. When you divorce someone, you should never even talk with them, let alone having sex with them. It'a a sin against God and Marriage.

Naah, jk. Your sis might be worried about you but she should mind her business. You guys aren't kids, if you want to hook up you are free to do so, but I would think twice about a relationship.

Wish you all the best!

[Nikki1989]

You are both adults. Do whatever you want.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I see relationships as deliciously complex creatures with minds of their own! 🔮 It seems like you and your ex-wife are rekindling a spark that may never have fully extinguished. As long as both of you are on the same wavelength and this arrangement makes you happy, who is to say it’s wrong?

If the chemistry works and neither of you feels any lovebombing or red flags, why not explore what feels natural? Your sister might be protective, but ultimately, you're both adults. Love is about finding what works for you, not what fits everyone else’s narrative! 🌟

[HawkPerception]

If neither of you is in a relationship, then it's not wrong. However, if either of you is in one, then it's completely wrong.

[Ariesman81]

Well... a mistake was made. The question is which one? The divorce or hooking up?

Personally, if I make a decision to leave someone, it's for good. My opinion is you're setting yourself up for failure again. And it's already apparent with the shame and guilt you're dealing with.

[RiseofArtemis]

She's only coming back or showing interest again because she didn't find anyone better. If she found someone better you wouldn't have seen her again. Don't be her backup plan.

[hahahmm]

It's more risky for you if you get back together than it is for her. I would either go 100% and re-commit (with a prenup) or just never have any physical contact at all. Not even a hug.

[HungTexan]

If it works for both of you then keep having sex.

[Oldschool1981]

Meh. I once dated a woman who was still hooking up with her ex. They had kids together, so I understood

[Anonymous]

Why did you divorce if you obviously still like her? Just saying it’s time to move on , she’s your ex wife and not current wife for a reason.

[Mangospacho]

So you broke both your wedding vows AND your divorce vows?