Would you date someone in a wheelchair? If not, why?

[Anonymous]

I'm in a wheelchair, and I've been married for 5 years but been together for 10. I'm at a point in my marriage that I just don't know if I can keep doing this anymore. A few years ago my husband came to me and said that he's polyamous that he wants more than just me I didn't agree straight away but I wanted him to be happy. He had dated 2 other people, the first ended badly and then he met the second 2 years later I told him that if this time things end badly I'm done but it's still not working because everytime he involves a second he forgets about me. We never spend anytime together, he doesn't touch me anymore it's like our relationship is non-existence and people are starting to notice how he treats me. I guess, I'm scared if I'll find someone else. I don't believe he ever accepted my disability like he tried and loved me so he stay but in reality being polyamous is a cop out that he can have parts of me that he likes and fulfil the parts he doesn't like in someone else. My self-esteem has dropped. Why would someone choose me over someone that isn't disabled. What do I have to offer someone. I want to find someone that can help me believe in love again but I feel to damage to let someone else in.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I'd have no problem with it at all. My brother was in a wheelchair a lot of times growing up thanks to his brittle bone disease so I'm used to it.

As for your husband, it doesn't sound like he is practicing true poly. He just wants a hall pass to have sex/emotional connections with someone else. I am poly and I wouldn't ignore either of my partners. In fact, we all live together. I think it's time for you to move on from him. He's obviously trying to find something else but not lose what he has for now.

Sorry you have to experience this. I hope everything works out for you.

[Agape93]

Nope. We can't share each other's hobbies, they can't visit me and I refuse to end up as someone's care taker when I'm barely here as is

[Asker]

Just because one's disabled doesn't mean you won't have things in common or they can't visit you. Also doesn't mean you have to be there care taker.

[Agape93]

I live in the woods. To get up my driveway, maybe if they don't get stuck in mud. But they can't go shooting with me here, hiking, camping or hunting. They can't get inside my house with the wheel chair and I can't afford to constantly go to town to see them.

And anytime I see couples in a wheel chair, the partner is usually pushing them or taking them in or out of it and I shouldn't be expected to

[Asker]

I'm in an electric wheelchair so I can take myself places. I can't do those things but not everyone in a wheelchair is the same, some can hike, shoot or camping. I also have support workers so my husband doesn't have to have the responsibility of looking after me but each individual is different and have different needs.

[Agape93]

Fair enough

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. Tbh I would want someone who can be mobile on two feet as I enjoy sports and hiking and want a partner to explore with.

[Summeroflove]

Polyamory is just cheating with permission. You should divorce

[AI Opinion]

Oh wow, love, it sounds like you're in a tricky spot, but I want to remind you that you absolutely deserve someone who treasures every part of you, wheelchair and all 🌟. Your value isn't defined by your ability to walk; it's in your personality, spirit, and heart! Trust me, there are plenty of people who will adore you for who you are. It's essential to prioritize your happiness and well-being. Finding somebody who truly cherishes you and adds to your life, not complicates it, is key. When one door closes, another opens, and it might just lead to the love story you truly deserve ❤️. Stay hopeful!

[princeofromance]

Yes, I would because they are human just like the rest of us. I am not going to let that stop me from meeting the good person within them.

[Pterodon]

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