Best way to handle this situation?

[Anonymous]

so this guy and I have been talking on and off for three months a few weeks ago we had gotten into a little tiff and I ended up blocking him. (I felt that my boundaries were being violated however he disagreed that that was the case). Today I took an initiative to apologize and take accountability for my actions which I acknowledge were wrong where I could’ve communicated my dissatisfaction. we had gotten into a major argument over the phone and at one point I was tired of him, putting words in my mouth so I cut him off. He got extremely upset about this and said. “cut that bullshit out. I’m not gonna tolerate that shit and disrespect. Do you hear me? Do you understand?” which freaked me out and all I said was yes. He told me that I need to make my decision whether he was “ worth it” or not so that we can meet up this weekend. he later demanded to know what I bring to the table and why I should get a second chance in his life. I know what the obvious answer to this is but I do need advice. Please and thank you.

[Anonymous]

I think you are extremely kind nature girl. It is YOUR boundary, ONLY YOU can decide that got crossed or not that got violated or not, it's only YOU can decide that what's hurtful to you, or how you feel about something. Even if that seem trivial to everyone else, but it's only upto you how you feel. So you should NEVER ignore that.

About that guy, I feel he is very controlling and manipulative by nature. You being so kind, will always be used by his tactics. Only you will have to keep saying sorry in that relationship and he will keep Gaslighting you that only you and only you are always and always wrong. So he isn't fit for you.

Let's say even if you were truly wrong in whatever incident happened. Still, you alone were not the full responsibile for the whole picture. If he were mature, he could had tried to understand the matter, or could tried to understand what were the reason by talking over it, discussing things over. But now, instead of all that he is directly asking you that what you bring to the table. So is he trying to make some kind of business deal? Is relationship is just like business deal to him? This isn't appropriate behaviour.

Even if you are capable of bringing so much things on the table, I would suggest you to say "none". You are not some kind of deal to get discussed your importance in someone's life. The one who would really understand your worth and who would really want you in their lives, will never tell such things to you.

You are very kind nature girl. You deserve much much better. Not like him that ass***e.

[SuperJJ]

I think you should forget about it immediately. Even if you are the only one to blame and want to take full responsibility, I think it is impossible that you are really suited to each other. If you argue over trivial reasons or if one of you wants to find a compromise, it is only a matter of time before you really get into a fight. Life is too short to argue before a relationship even begins. I suspect that if you submit now, you will be miserable because you will be oppressed by him in the future.

[OneViewpoint]

I don't know what you should do but I'd advise this guy to move on from you. You have a problem with accountability. You don't behave well when the conversation gets tough. That's not curable in my experience. And it's very common in women in my experience.

[Asker]

don’t u have grandkids to watch or something lmao

[OneViewpoint]

Truth hurts huh? No I'm not going anywhere. But you’re welcome to.

[OneViewpoint]

Maybe you should grow up baby girl.

[AI Opinion]

As your go-to relationship guru, I'm all about addressing those juicy relationship dilemmas! 🥰 It sounds like you're dealing with a classic red flag waving situation. Respect and communication are non-negotiable, hun. Don't let anyone corner you into proving your worth. You deserve a partner who's empathetic and values your feelings. Reflect on what you truly want, and trust your vibe detector. Love isn't a game of power—it's a seamless dance! 💃🤷‍♂️