How do you cope with loneliness? Do you only feel lonely when you aren't in a relationship?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nothing I can do about it.

I suppose the only way I’m sort of handling it is that I know I don’t meet women. The few that I do see aren’t interested. I don’t know any women who would set me up on a date. I don’t do online dating, though I’m considering it. I work, stay at home. I go hang out once in a while with my guy friends, and most of them (if they’re single) would never set me up, and I don’t think that many would even know anyone who would be a good match if they DID want to set me up.

The few women I know, I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking for help, because it’s considered tacky and clueless to ask friends now, I’m told.

Plus, dating is a hassle. So many selfish, toxic people, that while a part of me does want to find someone (which is stupid, but I’m an idiotic hopeless romantic), I think I’d just feel worse the more BS I had to put up with. I’ve been hurt enough, I don’t need to go looking for more chances to get let myself get hurt.

Plus, I’m waiting to improve my situation, and then I plan on moving, which won’t help me if I DO happen to start something serious, then have to move, or I get stuck here for her, and just give up on life because I sort of finally found something that’s ok in life. I can’t afford to stay in this soul destroying trash heap of a state. Staying here (which seems more and more like my only option each day) is giving up on a chance at a halfway decent life.

Right now, it’s just working as much as I can, and trying to ignore the loneliness.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I've been in a relationship forever now. Got side relationships even. I can't stop fucking so many chicks. I have a kid all learning things from me too so I feel like I need to calm it down. He's like in his teens and now he latches onto everything I do. Anyways...

I strive to be lonely and that's where I find peace. I'm just too damn sexy though and always have people up in my business.

It's been 1,946 years now and people still finding out I jerk off!

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

You get comfortable with it. You get comfortable with yourself which is the hardest thing I think we all have to learn how to do but its necessary to truly grow as a person. It's something that honestly for many of us is going to be with us for a very long time or at least for a good while until we find someone that completes us and even when we do, that doesn't always mean that that loneliness is going to disappear. For some people, that loneliness stays even though they are in a relationship. I know for me sometimes even though I was in a relationship, I still felt lonely at times because we were sort of long distance. But even if you're not it might still be there. You just have to be comfortable with yourself. And that's something I'm learning now.

Amy10223 · Accepted Answer

I am alone, but I'm not lonely, at least for now. I like my own company, and I get to do what I like. I really don't need people around me ALL the time. I'm social but certainly not a social butterfly. So in that regard, I'm lucky; but come some time in the future if I begin to feel lonely, I will do what I love to do always, travel, meet my friends, and involve myself in many things. If you are comfortable with yourself as a person, you don't need people or a relationship, to help you feel less lonely. Besides--you should not seek a relationship to cure your loneliness. You are only using people if you do that, and who wants to be used in any relationship?

DishLady · Answer

Personally, I rarely feel that way. I've chosen a life of solitude for a variety of reasons. When the sense of loneliness does strike I throw myself into a community project and that's that. Best to do something for those in need rather than to wallow on one fleeting feeling when there are folks who struggle with real world issues.

Summeroflove · Answer

As hard as it may be just being at peace and knowing it’s better then being miserable or unhappy. As well as not wasting someone else’s time either sone people do that. They aren’t only hurting themselves but someone else as well if they’re only with someone for the sake of being in a relationship not genuine attraction.

Blackcat1952 · Answer

That's funny. I don't care about that shit . I haven't bothered with women since I think ninety three with the last time. Honestly I don't miss it Women are too much. They are worse now. Don't get it wrong. I mean they're still smart I do like heaven Intelligent conversations with them. Still loneliness No they're so much to do. There is on t v Books 📚 to read I have to work. I have to clean my apartment. I had to visit my parents So see there's a lot to do to keep you busy. And if you get lonely. You can always masturbate

Anonymous · Answer

By understanding you're born alone, you die alone, is it really that tragic to be alone in between? I'll never understand why some people (especially women) make a big thing about this.

First off, are we talking lonely or single? Because they are NOT the same thing. I've been single my entire life. I can only remember feeling lonely a handful of times. I have too many people that love and care about me. Why would I feel lonely? Want to know what's worse than being single and lonely? Being in a relationship and being lonely.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I keep myself busy so I don't have time to be lonely. I had a hard time learning to sleep alone after having a long term relationship, but I bought a body pillow and lots of pillows to surround myself with to feel comfortable.. I do feel more lonely when I am single but you eventually get used to it the longer you stay alone.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I can count on one hand the moments when I didn’t feel alone

And they always end too soon

I cope with it because it’s the only feeling I truly know

It might sound depressing to say out loud but really it’s just how I know life to be so it’s no issue

Blunky · Answer

I'm too harsh of my own critic to really let myself feel lonely about anything. I don't like the "Woe is me" feeling of it and it actually happens more often when I'm around others.

Being alone is a different story. Very much used to that growing up in a severely abusive household and it's what made me as independent as I am today.

MsDimpless · Answer

I feel like loneliness has a lot to do with yourself and I've been in a relationship for 10 years now.. and it's very contradictory cuz I can feel alone with somebody or without them.. I feel it's just something our brains make up to cope with other feelings that we can't understand nor deal with.. I feel like it's more of a war in your mind.. and nobody around you will ever understand or see it.. only yu.. and yu have to understand that too.. that only yu see it.. and realize you have and always made it through anything you thought you couldn't.. alone ! .. yu can make it through this too.. cuz we're all humans, and we're all new to this.. we can make it.. whether we feel alone or actually are alone.. ❤️

DrPepper12 · Answer

The best way to cope with loneliness is to first give yourself the grace and knowledge of understanding the difference between alone and loneliness.

Are you TRULY lonely or alone?

If lonely there's only one solution: Authentic Affirmative steps to make yourself uncomfortable if not vulnerable. You HAFTA risk time, money, resources and the real possibility of getting hurt or disappointed in order to combat loneliness. It's the ONLY way.

Shiprex · Answer

Learn to care for yourself. Being alone isn't an automatic loneliness conviction. A good skill is mindfulness which is easy to find out because it educates you to become in the moment in and of yourself.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

The loneliest i have ever felt, was when I was married lol. My ex husband's mental illness was a monster.  Being single can bring a certain type of peace into your life.

EricaSAshley · Answer

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TheSpaceGnome · Answer

"How do you cope with loneliness?" I don't, I just suffer through it while looking for a girlfriend. "Do you only feel lonely when you aren't in a relationship?" Yes.

Bricealan · Answer

I spend a lot of time alone but am not 'Lonely'. I find ways to entertain myself and go, and do things that keep me occupied and involved.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I cope with loneliness by making a point of stepping out into the community and chatting with people. Thankfully, I don't feel lonely very often

Likestorizz · Answer

Been lonely for a while I drink every day , I often chat with people from online that does it for me.

Miristheiss · Answer

Stay active with friends, family, activities, hobbies, bettering yourself, learning new skills and growing in wisdom. Focus on helping others.

kaucky1 · Answer

They try to not let me be in any kind of relation so they look through my eyes get to them pretend to be me act like fools so nothing is right have guy spirits around me so nothing is right and just stay angry

exitseven · Answer

I used to try and not think about it. I got pretty comfortable being by myself. Maybe a little too comfortable.

Levin · Answer

We ain't lonely unless we abandon ourselves, girl.

Sachem · Answer

Women never gave a d@mn for me so I just learn to accept my fate. Nothing I could do about it anyway.

Agape93 · Answer

I'm perfectly comfortable being alone. That doesn't bother me.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I talk to friends or my boyfriend when I get lonely

Nikki1989 · Answer

I am never lonely. I have the opposite problem, if anything.

noohair · Answer

I hated myself for about the first 40 years of my life. I went for help and now enjoy my own company and like myself. I don’t feel lonely anymore.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

Women don't understand what loneliness really is.

Jay-_- · Answer

It rarely happens and when it does honestly I just naturally cope, it leaves quick, at least quicker than most. 🤷🏽‍♂️

RingOfFire · Answer

The worst kind of loneliness can happen when you are IN a relationship and lonely.

dragoblack · Answer

I distract myself with hobbies, learning new skills, and entertainment. Keep yourself busy and the crippling thoughts and depression doesn't set in

RossyBoi · Answer

Loneliness is 1 million times better than being trapped with an abusive partner. Stay single and stay safe everyone.

zagor · Answer

I almost never feel lonely. I need a lot of alone time.

retarb · Answer

I call people. Staying in contact with your friends goes a long way.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never been in a relationship so I can't compare it.

Lovelily · Answer

I always feel lonely even im in a relationship in that moment

Caroline91 · Answer

I don't know bc I almost never get lonely.

virgo2267 · Answer

Not lonely… just horny

captain_voidwalker · Answer

I bury myself in work

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

if ur feelings lonely get a pet or partner

PaleDale · Answer

I don't cope with it well at all

MasterKS · Answer

Sex is best medicine.

Dongie · Answer

You don't.

UnwantedScorpio · Answer

Totally

wkhan_87 · Answer

I read books

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