Why do women, who cheat, get mad when the person they cheated with, cheats on them, or chooses to go back to their wives?

[Anonymous]

One would think it is expected. But you see this all the time, where a cheater feels some how betrayed that the person they cheated with, cheats on them, or goes back to their wives.

Honestly i have ZERO sympathy for cheaters. They aren't human. they are monsters who exist without empathy, without a soul, and are in fact abusing the partner they cheated on when they cheat. THIS GOES FOR BOTH GENDERS.. Calm down feminists.

[DishLady]

First of all, blue anon, this bs happens to cheaters whether make or female.

(1) if you're a cheater with no moral compunction, don't be surprised when those you're around ALSO don't have morals.

(2) if one or more of the morons who cheated on their spouses with the "main character" of this charade goes back to their spouse (who may or may not be aware of this moral bankruptcy) that's just karma giving a few people a kick in the nads, but it doesn't fix the psychological and moral glitch of cheating. It just drags the innocent spouses into a spiraling abyss of dishonesty.

[Asker]

No disagreement, it just pisses me off. My sister in law did this to her husband, she cheated, her affiar partner went back to his wife, and she came crying to my wife and I, and we want nothing to do with her. My wife and I both view cheating the same.

And it's gendered because of the situation above. I'm can guarantee guys do it too, I just have no experience with it.

[DishLady]

Your SIL -- you're brother's wife or your wife's sister? (Doesn't make much of a difference bc she's just very silly, but out of curiosity, I'm asking.)

Guys def do it too. There was a guy I was coaching a while back. He was talking about his wife as if she was already an ex (papers filed, etc.) and he was just going through the motions of picking his kid up after school till the mom could come pick the kid up. BUT it turned out that he was a massive PUA (pick up artist) feeding this sob story to anyone who would listen. Folks were sorry for him and setting him up with women to go out with etc.

He'd always make some excuse or other not to go through with anything more than physical flirtations and one day he started coming to me with his little stories... It seemed obvious that he was mentally and morally not 100%, but I didn't know why. Because of our moral differences I ended up suggesting he get a different coach. No joke... a month or so later I met his wife, who came looking for him and asking questions bc she'd just realized she was trapped in a marriage with an emotional cheater. When she found out I coach she asked me to help her, but I had to refer her to someone else in my network... conflict of interest and all that...

Anyway, yeah, both guys and gals can be guilty of that... and tbh, "they get what they get" because they started the spiraling slope down a moral rabbit hole and don't deserve the spouse they've got.

[Asker]

Agreed, it's my sister in law, my wife's sister, she cheated on her husband.

[DishLady]

Well, I sympathize of course with your wife bc she’s probably feeling a certain way about her sister. Sigh. Just try to be there to comfort your wife. There’s not much else you can do.)

[Asker]

Agreed. Yeah her sister is not welcome in our home. That was my wife's choice, and I support it.

[Anonymous]

Lol, if this goes for both genders (whatever the question is) then why aim it just at women?

But back to the question (s)

One bad doesn't do a good, people who cheat are probably more concerned about own feelings (being cheated on) than other people's feelings (the one being cheated on) and thus they get mad.

And the last part is hard to understand. Is this woman cheating or is the man in question cheating since he's the one going back to his wife indicating he's the cheater and she's the participant. Which is bad, tho not as bad as the cheating itself since they're not commited to the other part the same way.

[Asker]

My statement about all genders more or less applies to the second part of the question where I see cheaters as monsters.

The first part is because my sister in law cheated on my brother in law, and then cam to my wife crying when she got cheated on by the person she cheated with. Then she got pissed at me and my wife when we didn't show any sympathy, because we both view cheating the same way.

We additionally helped her ex husband get full custody of their children.

[Opinion Owner]

Yet, your question is still aimed at women and seems like there are two cheaters in your little story.

And what has that to do with the last part.

You want a clap on the shoulder? A celebration? I'm not getting this.

[Asker]

If you're not getting it that's on you, and your level of intelligence.

[AI Opinion]

Here we go, stepping into the thrilling drama of love games! 🎭 It's simply a case of getting a taste of your own medicine, but emotions don't always dance to logic's tune. People craving excitement might overlook consequences, and the green-eyed monster called "jealousy" loves to crash the party. While I get the zero-sympathy vibe, remember, even cheaters are human—they just lost their compass somewhere in hearts-ville. 💔 Keep calm and understand that empathy, or the lack thereof, fuels this roller coaster! 🌟

[itsannalee]

It’s not about the women. But about the human, cheaters are always playing victim when they find out their partner cheated on them too.