Have you ended up dating your guy/female friend after some people knocked some sense into you to realize that they’ve been the right person all along?

[AmazonChick171]

The right person has been there with you the entire time but you were too blind? Do you like the person back? They liked you for YEARS and you were too blind with the wrong person and have that checklist.

[Finchie40]

I was FWB’s with a girl that my friends kept telling me to make it official with her , because she was head over heels for me and she told my friends’ the truth that I didn’t want a relationship , which she was right about , considering I just got out of a relationship prior to meeting her. and didn’t want to settle down right away. So i pretty much ignored my friends’. and continued to be FWB’s with her , Her and I had an agreement that we could date other people , but we promised we couldn’t have sex with anyone else , but if we did , we promised to end the benefits part between us and just remain friends’ . Eventually I ended up meeting another girl that I was interested in , and started to date her as well , I told my FWB’s about her because I kept my promise and didn’t hide anything from her , what I didn’t realize was my FWB’s was upset and jealous that I met this other girl even though I didn’t have sex with this other girl , But my FWB’s still chose to stop talking to me , and stopped returning my calls , that’s when it hit me that I was being a dumb ass , so I showed up to my FWB’s house with flowers and told her I only want her and no one else , she said yes and her and I became official that day , we dated for 2 years until I found out she cheated on me , so that was the end of that relationship.

[DCVsMarvel2]

BINGO

Now you get it

Why don't girls get this

[AmazonChick171]

I don’t know. Guys can be like this too but yeah most girls just wants to put good guys in the “friend zone”. If they aren’t interested I mean that’s fine they don’t have to date them, but it’s girls like that complaining there’s no good man when they’re a CLEARLY ONE IN FRONT OF THEM! My girl pal complained but we all know her guy friend really likes her and ADORES her. He would do a lot of things to impress her and he’s been chasing her since 7th grace. She always date these jocks and good looking jerks that broke her heart. She just broke up with her now ex husband who she was with for seven years. Ages 19 to 26. She’s 26 like us.
She was with him for seven year and married for two years. Her guy friend looked like he wanted to say something at her wedding but didn’t want to ruin it.
She said men sucks.

[DCVsMarvel2]

He should have. I think she would have done something about it.

You ever see Jamie Foxx show. When fancy thinks she wants to marry silas, it turns out, she never did, and was really only trying to get jamie to admit his feelings to her. He does, and of course, the rest is history on the show. My point is, sometimes, you just have to be honest with people, even if it's at the "wrong time"

[AmazonChick171]

I told him he should have stopped the wedding. I told him he waited too long to confess his feelings.

[AmazonChick171]

No I’ve never seen the Jamie Foxx show
Yeah that’s true I see what you mean. They should have been honest. Her guy friend should have stopped the wedding and confessed

[DCVsMarvel2]

Exactly

[AmazonChick171]

Well she’s single now and she complains that there’s no good man. I was so fustrated with her and knocked some sense into her that her guy friend is a good man and she’s too blind to see that! I told her to open her eyes and see that he has always been the man for her since day one. All these years the right man was in front of her! It’s up to her if she wants to go out with him but don’t let a good man like him go! I told him he should have confessed his feelings along ago! If you’re still interested, go after her!

[AmazonChick171]

She divorced her husband two weeks ago. I told him to give her a lot of time as she just divorced. Don’t wait until it’s too late but it might be because he should have been honest and told the truth and she got upset that he didn’t say nothing or how he wasn’t the right man for her.

[DCVsMarvel2]

Probably fears losing him as a friend, if it doesn't work out
That's usually the case with why most "friends" don't admit it

[AmazonChick171]

Yeah that’s true

[NordicInScandinavia]

No, nor do I want to date my friends especially not solely based on the reason that they like me. I ain't that desperate.

[AmazonChick171]

Your life

[NordicInScandinavia]

I'm aware and unlike you I'm not alone, constantly crying about how my friends should date the men they don't like, while crying how you can't land yourself a tall man, rhats all you want.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the classic *friends-to-lovers* tale! 😏 Sometimes, those closest to us hold the biggest pieces of our heart, and realizing it can be a lightbulb (or heart-thump) moment. It's like finding hidden chocolate you forgot about! 🍫 If you feel those inklings of "wait, am I in love?", give it a little time to see if they turn into fireworks. But hey, if it's just a checklist you're tossing aside, be sure it's for the right reasons, not just because everyone else has chimed in. Love, after all, is a masterpiece uncensored by lists! 🌟

[Summeroflove]

The answer to this question is no. If I’m not attracted to someone number one I’m not wasting my time on someone I’m not attracted to. Number two I’m not wasting their time if they’re my friend I have enough respect for them as a human being not to string them along.

That will hurt someone else more then it hurts you to act like you want someone. It’s okay to date as a let’s say a trail to see if anything materializes but if it doesn’t then it shouldn’t go any further.

If someone cannot take no for a answer that’s a major red flag of someone. If they feel entitled and refuse to stop pushing. Number one rejection hurts but number two my way of thinking is…. Simply put. Why waste time on someone whose not interested? What do I get from that?

If I like someone back and I think we can be compatible yes I would date. But if I got to a point I didn’t see a future I’m not wasting my time or the time of someone else.

I know that just because I’m not attracted to someone. There isn’t someone out there who genuinely will be. We aren’t made for everyone you know… and I would rather someone find love then waste their time.

[Surely]

Can’t say that I have ever experienced that.

[AmazonChick171]

Oh okay

[Anonymous]

Nope, I never had a date, all of my loves were unrequited.

[Anonymous]

are you single at the moment? you say you had an ex-boyfriend but you never slept with him?

[WonderingManII]

No because I never dated anyone :(

[AmazonChick171]

NEVER? My goodness why not?

[WonderingManII]

@AmazonChick171
My life hasn't been good for dating. High School girls was a no go. Church girls was a no go. At work girls was also a no go. Internet girls has always been a no go.

[AmazonChick171]

Damn

[TallAnon]

Nope

[eagle1951]

nope

[AmazonChick171]

Maybe she was the one. You didn’t notice

[eagle1951]

no I married the one , the second time we were together 37 years I miss her every day, God got a great one

[AmazonChick171]

Oh I’m so sorry