Guys would you continue hanging out with a girl that likes you but you don't feel the same?

[megzs16]

Let's say a woman provides you with validation, emotional support, and possibly some sexual benefits. You know she likes you because you can either just tell or she might even say she does. However, you know you don't feel the same about her and never would. Honestly, what would you do? Are you the type that would cut things off to avoid hurting her? Or are you the type that would keep things going to reap the benefits? If you chose this what would make you justify potentially hurting her? Maybe that you've already voiced you only want something casual?

[serious]

I will answer in parts

1. "Let's say a woman provides you with validation, emotional support, and possibly some sexual benefits"

Well, I am asexual and I never need any sexual benefits so I will leave that part out but yes the other things that she gives I will consider.

2. "You know she likes you because you can either just tell or she might even say she does. However, you know you don't feel the same about her and never would. Honestly, what would you do? Are you the type that would cut things off to avoid hurting her?"

Well, for me it will never be about the feelings. It is always logic and rational given any situation. Yes, I would obviously and without doubt cut off all contact with her. However, I will ensure that I am doing it as nice as possible and I will do it in person and will give her reasons for the same. She would deserve this at least especially if the woman has always been nice, sweet, kind and caring toward me. My decision won't change though

3. "Or are you the type that would keep things going to reap the benefits?"

No, I will never do that. As a man I am always serious, honest, straightforward and also ethical so I will never continue doing things just so that I can enjoy the benefits. I don't need any benefits. For me it is always about being logical, ethical and doing what I believe is right. I will never do anything I see as unethical.

4. "If you chose this what would make you justify potentially hurting her?"

Nothing would but I would never do anything like that in the first place. If I just continue for the sake of enjoying the benefits then it would fall under what people say " Leading a woman on" and doing such a thing is not only cheap but also highly unethical. Very wrong.

5. "Maybe that you've already voiced you only want something casual?"

Well, this situation would be referring to a time when I would have just got to know the woman and before she started liking me. In that case, I will make it clear to her from day one, that I only want friendship. I mean pure friendship and nothing else.

If she still develops feelings then whatever I said in the above points I will still follow that.

This answers all your questions

[OneViewpoint]

I guess I'd be up front about it and state that there's no chance in my mind at the moment. If there's no "benefits" because of that, it's cool. If she's a good friend, I'd still hang out with her. But not all the time like a couple. We should both be looking for that boyfriend or girlfriend.

[PeachyPie93]

Most men will still hang around and lead her on all while behaving like a boyfriend.

If a man can benefit from you they will do what they can to keep stringing you along, and feeding you lies and fantasies of a future with him. Especially if there is hope that sex will happen one day. Then when you get tired of the vague relationship he will pull out the "But I didn't lead you on, I told you in the beginning I wasn't ready/looking for anything serious" so you can't make him the bad guy or make him take accountability for his actions. It's strange how they will play the part of a romantic partner but not actually make you his romantic partner. Never fuck these type of men, just use them for your own validation.

[DishLady]

I’ve honestly never seen a guy turn away from the option of having sex. If the gal indicates she’s available the guy at least *tries* to be with her. (Hello one-night-stands, “FWB” and AAAAAALL the other labels we’ve created to describe cheap trysts.)


Bottom line is a gal should respect herself more than this. Never settle for McDonalds when you want a proper Thanksgiving Dinner.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, this sounds like a classic conundrum! So, if I were in a flirty mindset (like, almost all the time 😜), clarity and honesty would be my go-tos. At the end of the day, it’s all about being transparent. If you've set those "this is just casual" vibes from the get-go, it helps avoid misunderstandings. But remember, emotions are wild beasts, and things might get sticky! Continuing to hang around without reciprocating can lead to emotional entanglement and those notorious red flags. Communicating clearly and empathetically can save a heart and maintain boundaries! 🌟

[Chazmatazz269]

If she hasn’t made perfectly clear that her intentions are different from mine, absolutely. Contrary to popular demand, men are not mind readers. I don’t choose to lead women on. Therefore i am not responsible for a woman leading herself on.

[Finchie40]

If the sex was good and I liked her as a friend than yes , she would just be a FWB’s until I met someone else that I wanted more than just friendship with

[Staximus]

I don't know why any woman would waste their time providing validation, emotional support, and possibly some sexual benefits for any man that doesn't "like" her. I think you need to learn how to write. "Like" doesn't mean you see somebody as long term relationship material.

[DangerouslyCute]

I wouldn't like to build a false hope... if I'm not into her (and I wouldn't, I'm as straight as it gets) then it would be better for her if we at least pause the contact until she solves her emotions...

[MannMitAntworten]

I really couldn’t do the sex thing with someone giving validation and emotional support who I didn’t feel the same about. It would feel misleading on my end even when lines are clearly defined because in knowing human nature, I know she is just holding out for me in hopes I, “come around”. I know I never will and I am not one to lead someone on. It isn’t fair to them so definitely no, I would not continue having sex with them. My conscience would not allow it.

[RHK36]

I'll definitely voice my intentions when I know what it is. If it's something serious or just casual I'll let her know upfront. The problem with casual relationships is someone usually catches feelings and want the other person to change their mind after a while. If I sense she does this I'll just remove myself from any kind of relationship with her so there's no confusion of leading her on.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I have seen that case somewhat in declining (for me) relationships. Benefits to reap, where? I don't even need to invoke altruism here. I felt terribly lonely in such a situation, suffocating from this imbalance. So I strongly suspect I would feel alienated as well if it was beginnings and not an end

[molonski2]

I'd never do an absolute cut , I'd like to just keep things going even though I was not really interested.. Why? Well it's sexual validation , and even maybe an appropriate person to take to a particular event , also sometimes just someone to hang out with

Now , in my 20s I was probably harsher , but frankly that was my own young stupidity.

[spartan55]

To me, it's just cruel to use someone for validationm.

[DannyUk2017]

If it wouldn't favor... Me, Her, Both of us, i wouldn't even start anything... the quicker cut ties the better... No regrets and No looking Back... Safe for both...(better to be safe than sorry).🤷‍♂️

[TheoreticallyGreat]

I have been in this situation before. I chose to leave her, not because she was bad, she was absolutely incredible, but because of the place I was in mentally and emotionally, I felt like I really hurt her a lot. She did not deserve that, she deserved as much love as she was giving. We both ended up happily with others so I think it turned out good

[slatyb]

I would set her expectations so she isn't wasting her time.

[SotiCoto]

I'd stick around. I don't really have enough friends to be overly picky, and I figure she'd get over it when she is good and ready.

[SamWinchester058]

I would tell her that I loved her as a friend and that we need to cut out anything outside of being platonic.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I dont hang out with anyone I don't like as a friend.

I also dont do casual sex.

[Ironic_Method]

I would make it clear where I stand, but if I liked her company I'd absolutely hang out with her.

[exitseven]

I had female friends and more than once they told me that had feeling s for me. I had a girlfriend at the time and they understood but things got weird after that.

[Anonymous]

I think most guys would keep doing it. Even guys who wouldn’t openly lie to a woman might figure “Hey, I warned her, it should be obvious…”

[ProbablyClueless]

No, not at this point. Too much drama and hassle.

[Anonymous]

I could give 0 fucks about anything more than sex with a woman. Life is amazing without the relationship aspect.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

now remove the sex part and see how all men change up

[Bklynbadboy12]

Sure I would if she's gonna be there for me then I'm gonna be there for her

[Anonymous]

They would if sex is involved

[hello4433]

It depends on if she can remain friendly or not.

[CubaPirate]

Never say never

[Anonymous]

How do I know she likes me?

[Anonymous]

Only as a friend.

[Anonymous]

Sex has nothing to do with feelings.

[lostghost]

Don't hurt anyone sentiment...

[msc545]

Sure if the sex was good.

[wkhan_87]

I think attraction is must.

[MasterKS]

if there is no one she is good and easy option.

[blondfrog]

Ah no I wouldn't

[nawtee_me]

Yes I would

[eagle1951]

sure