Do you ever feel like you feel too deeply for things especially people that it is not only emotionally painful but physically as well?

[Simslover92]

[Beckybooboo]

I'm a nurse practitioner and I've always gotten emotionally attached to people my whole life and now, that includes patients. My supervising MDs have always said that isn't a good thing but I think it makes me better as a healthcare provider. People tell me I'll probably die young, because I feel like I need to take the weight of the world on my shoulders but that's who I decided to be 🤷 and I can tell you're not that different.

[Simslover92]

Being a nurse practitioner, I bet you see a lot and feel so much for people that come in which isn't exactly a good thing but I know you can't really help it. I completely understand and empathize 100%. Although I'm not there anymore, when I worked at my mental health job, it took a toll on me because I could feel the patients suffering. It was a lot to deal with everyday. So I definitely understand how you feel.

[Caroline91]

@Beckybooboo I think it's a very good thing in your profession. As a patient, it makes the experience so much more positive for me, even in the difficult times. But I think balance in very important, too. That deep compassion and emotional involvement needs to be balanced with acceptance of the realities of this life, like so many people who work for hospice seem to be able to do. I appreciate you and what you do. Thank you for making the world a better, more humane place.

[Beckybooboo]

@Caroline91 Thank you for such kind words. I will find balance and accept things I can't change, I just don't ever wanna be like some of the doctors and nurses that seem to lose their passion for the job and just collect a check. Though that type of provider is rare, they exist and it's sad and disappointing to see. Thank you again, I appreciate it.

[Pearl222]

I definitely do…as an empath

[Pearl222]

Thanks for the MHO 😊

[AI Opinion]

Aim here is to connect and help you navigate those intense feelings, love. Feeling deeply is both a blessing and a curse, right? You care so profoundly, but sometimes, it feels like you're carrying the weight of the world in your heart. It's like having a wild emotional rollercoaster inside you! Remember, it's okay to protect your heart and set some boundaries. Don't let lovebombing or red flags get you down. You're not alone in this, and sometimes a good book or cuddling up with a loved one can soothe that ache. ❤️ Keep shining bright!

[VIVANT]

I think it’s really important that we have people like that. Balance out all the people who don’t care about it, so I wouldn’t call it “too much” just a lot” and better than the alternative.

[ohsheeT]

No it's just who I am I care and I feel things that maybe I shouldn't because I don't even know them. But those are the people who become good friend because of that connection

[sage2021]

Ya know Sims, I get what you are saying here because I used to be exactly what you described.

But as I have lived so many decades now, somewhere along the line I stopped being that way. It wasn't a conscience decision or anything like that but I have worked very hard to change my mindset starting at age 37. I've done the hard work and spent quite a bit of time to reexamine my life and make changes. Not that I was bad or anything before this epiphany happened, it was just the right time to shed my skin (like animals and insects do).

I recently learned that a childhood friend has lung cancer. She just told me a few days ago when she called me.

The old me would have handled that bad news differently. But one thing that I learned is that I am not interested with people anymore. I know where I stop and where they stop and that we are separate. I hope that makes sense because before I would actually feel people's pain and want to do something to fix it. But I am not like that anymore and it's actually freeing to be that way. I still care very deeply and pray 🙏🏼 for people but I no longer feel like it's my pain too.

Being the way that I was can make a person's body start to get all out of wack and sick. It affects a person's stress hormones, their cortisol levels which affects the adrenal glands and then the kidneys because the three of them are on the same axis. It can mess with the neurotransmitters in your brain causing deficiencies in your serotonin and dopamine and epinephrine as well.

I am sorry if I sound like I am preaching here, but I have learned a lot about feeling too deeply about things and people but that doesn't help them and only causes me to become sick. 🤢 I'm done with that!!

[Simslover92]

I'm so sorry about your childhood friend. But I'm glad you have a new way of handling and dealing with things. I know for me, it would have definitely taken a toll on me to hear news like that.

[sage2021]

Autocorrect screwed up. It says that I am not interested in people anymore.

What I typed was I am no longer emeshed with a person.

We are separate from each other and so I can be more of an objective observer with people.🙄

Perhaps if you spent 15-1/2 being sick 🤢 and bed bound you would have to make some changes too with the information that people give you - like bad news. I sure as heck don't ever want that again!!

[sage2021]

15-1/2 years

[loveyouoak]

Yes, I feel emotional pain deeply, but never in a way that turns into physical pain. Do you ever feel like that?

[Simslover92]

Sometimes I do. If the person is dealing with physical pain, I can sometimes feel it too.

[Purpleronnie]

Absolutely and my mind immediately gets taken to hurt and emotional trauma on that question but in actual fact it swings both ways. The high’s are also higher.

[Bricealan]

@Simslover92 That is my one failing, getting too emotional over other's pain. I would not be a good candidate for a doctor or nurse or someone that deals with emotional wounds

[Nikki1989]

Occasionally I do feel too emotionally attached to things that I have no control over. However I would rather be like that than be like a grey sprinkle on a rainbow cupcake.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah... if I get stoned on weed I tend to interpret their feelings before I consider their words. Sober though... I'm just mathematical

[DannyUk2017]

Yes, and is not fair! As No one (the other party) feels the same about me... Seems unfair, but this is life! Need to Stop doing "that"...🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[Orion84]

I'm actually the opposite; my emotional programming is full of bugs, and barely functions at all.

[Shiprex]

I worry too much about things that aren't within my influence. That's sometimes hurtful and harmful.

[Account]

It happens. I alternate between feeling everything and being utterly cold.

[Caroline91]

Yes. But I wouldn't want to live my life any other way.

[RageBabe]

Yes, but I would not change my ability to feel deeply.

[jazzy34]

I don't have physical symptoms, but I definitely feel things deeply.

[WonderingManII]

Yes, I get hurt easily. I have soft spot for women. So they can hurt me pretty deeply pretty easily.

[Chayce]

I only feel compassion for people very close to me. My life is too stressful to be feeling sorry for other people all the time.

[McSteamy]

I'm that kind of person. I'm too sensitive emotionally. But experiences made me strong mentally over time.

[Grond21]

I don't, but one of my closest friends is very much like that

[MannMitAntworten]

Emotional ‘hurt’, yes. Never physical pain from an end.

[Himmothy]

Yes my mother never admits she's wrong. Everyone does this but It hurts most when she does it.

[DangerouslyCute]

for my people... if they suffer...

[Xawyx-2]

Yes I do, I know the feeling.

[Dongie]

Yep!

[Dongie]

Do you Sim?
And do you mean their physical pain?

[Dongie]

How could it hurt physically?

[Dongie]

When my sister was pregnant with her second child I suffered sympathy pains even three up a few times. I was in her life the same as with her first and third but didn't have that happen.

[Dongie]

Fkn SC! *threw

[Simslover92]

Yeah sometimes I can feel their physical pain or my own pain hurts so much that it physically hurts. I'll get headaches or cramps. It's weird.

[Dongie]

It is. Have you ever experienced a premonition or any clairvoyance?

[Anonymous]

Yes I do. Empaths *hurt*. Often.

[qwerty2469]

Nope. Not at all.

[ethem438]

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