What would you do in my place?

[Anonymous]

Spoke to two guys in middle school. After college they along with their exes and wife decided to humiliate by making a video where they made fun of me and what not. The video went viral and I am being bothered by what was said every single day of my life. It’s been eight months. I’ve contacted everyone involved in the video they don’t want to send it to me. I asked strangers no one wants to show it to me. For my sanity I need to see the video. Help!

[HollyK21]

How do you know it went viral? Why didn’t whoever told you about it just send it to you?

[Asker]

Everyone is talking about it. That’s how I know

[HollyK21]

So why don’t any of those people send it?

[Asker]

Apparently they want to honor my mother wish. She’s scared if I see it I’ll stop dating. I just need to see it for my sanity

[HollyK21]

So every single person that knows about this video wants to honor your mothers wish of finding you a man? Very odd place you live that every single body knows you’re single and knows your mom is scared you’ll be that way forever. This must be the smallest town under the Sun, and if it is that small of a town then I doubt the video is actually viral, just being gossiped about and in that case I wouldn’t worry about it. The only way I’d imagine it being so bad is if they’re airing you out and you don’t want people to think bad about you.

[HollyK21]

@Abbycado I’m having a hard time believing this story, what are your thoughts?

[Asker]

Not a small town more like the whole state. One of the guy described the time he saw me and I guess he didn’t have anything nice to say that’s why they don’t want to show me. The other guy was making fun of me with his wife and saying degrading things about me so they’re scared to hurt me but I just want to see it. Let me see what y’all talking about and making fun of

[Abbycado]

Holly, what I don’t understand is how let someone take an embarrassing video of yourself. Couldn’t you just walk away?

[Asker]

Didn’t know I was being filmed

[HollyK21]

You said no one wanted to show you because of your mom? I don't know, I’m having a hard time believing all this but on the off chance that it’s true I’d just cut all those people off. If they’re just saying rude things, those are just words and opinions. Not worth all the concern or excess energy.

[Abbycado]

So asker you were humiliated yourself voluntarily?

[HollyK21]

@Abbycado right? Just very fishy.

[Asker]

My mom saw it and asked people not to show me because they’re guys making fun of my look and they brought their exes to show how beautiful they are compared to me so she’s scared it will stop me from wanting to date. I’m not humiliated I’m more annoyed. Everybody is talking about something but don’t want to show it to me

[HollyK21]

I don't know, I just feel like if there’s a video that is allegedly so bad the entire state knows about it and it’s so bad you’ve had to switch jobs 3x (I read your comments to the other guy) someone is going to have access and show you. Like you’re saying all your new coworkers who are complete strangers know your mom and to respect her wishes of not showing you? You’re saying that complete strangers are so concerned with not hurting your feelings they won’t show you the video, yet they can make jokes, make fun of your looks etc? None of that adds up Asker.

[Asker]

That’s my reality

[HollyK21]

You didn’t answer any of those questions. Why would complete strangers at a brand new job know to respect your moms request? She told the entire state? She told people at your brand new job before you even met them?

[Asker]

They empathize. They say the video is mean and meant to hurt me so they don’t want to do that but at the same time it’s funny so they make fun of me. It’s on a page so people can comment

[Asker]

How do I get them to send it to me?

[HollyK21]

I don’t believe this is actually happening so ask someone else.

[Asker]

I can summarize the video for you

[Abbycado]

Fuck off, troll.

[OneViewpoint]

If it's viral and "everyone" is talking about it, you have to be the dumbest internet user on the planet to spend 8 months searching for it in vain. I'm calling bullshit here. Any woman 25-29 is basically a PhD in internet searches.

[Asker]

They blocked me.

[OneViewpoint]

"Everyone" blocked you? What does it matter if they blocked you? Did they post this "viral" video of you on some private server and block your IP address?

[Asker]

It’s on a private page. Someone has to tag you. Everybody that I ask act like they don’t know what I’m talking about but then make fun of me afterwards.

[OneViewpoint]

So stop trying to hang out with these assholes. Leave them in the rear view mirror of your life and go find some better people to hang out with. Stop allowing them to live rent free in your head.

[Asker]

The entire state? When I say everyone is talking about it I mean literally everyone even kids

[OneViewpoint]

Maybe go get checked for paranoia.

[Asker]

Been to doctors even psychiatrist everything is normal I’m not making it up

[Asker]

I can dictate you everything that happened in the video I just haven’t seen it

[Asker]

How do I get them to show it to me?

[FunkyMonkee]

Check out your record collection, take a tour of the place, if there's a pool, ask if I could take a swim, the usual stuff.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to sprinkle some positivity and optimism your way. I’m really sorry this is happening to you; it sounds like a nightmare. While it's tempting to want to watch the video, it might be more empowering to focus on reclaiming your happiness. Get support from friends or a counselor, and remember: your worth is not defined by someone else's negative actions. You're fabulous just the way you are. Keep shining! 😊💪

[exitseven]

This is out in the wild. You have to believe it will die down. Meanwhile take your time while plotting your revenge.

[Asker]

It’s been eight months. I just want to see the video

[spartan55]

Yeah, this sounds real...🙄 /s

[jazzy34]

You could sue for defamation.

[Asker]

Where’s the video?

[jazzy34]

How do you know it’s in circulation and has gone viral?

[Asker]

Literally everybody is talking about it. I’ve changed jobs three times the same thing happened in every one of them. They make fun of me. Repeat everything that was said. I go to Walmart same thing church same thing. Everywhere I go I’m being made fun of

[jazzy34]

Okay. Since you don’t have the actual video, you can still sue the people involved. That’s what I meant by you can sue for defamation.

[Anonymous]

Take some legal actions.

[Asker]

I still won’t be able to see the video. I just want to see the video. How do I get them to send it to me?

[Opinion Owner]

Try to ask them nicely...