Do you spend too much time being considerate of other people's feelings?

[DishLady]

[HawkPerception]

Yes and no. I try to be the blunt guy that just speaks my mind and whoever can't take it can't take it. But I'm also not trying to hurt people's feelings for the sake of hurting their feelings. I try to be considerate and encouraging as much as I can, sometimes even putting others on a pedestal by saying they're better than me in many ways.

[OlderAndWiser]

I always try to be considerate of other people's feelings. Is that too much time to spend on it?

[DishLady]

I don't know. I had a conversation with my spiritual advisor a few weeks ago and said that my biggest sin in life was forgetting myself too often while serving others... I have to remember that I'm only human too and can't neglect myself if I'm to continue serving others properly. He actually agreed. I can't "walk over hot coals" (so to speak) for every person just bc they're too lazy to do it themselves. I have my own set of hot coals to cross to maintain my own day-to-day functionality. 2026 is going to have to be a self-maintenance year for once.

[OlderAndWiser]

Agree that you must be your highest priority.

[DishLady]

It’s harder than it sounds. Plus it never feels right to do that. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[OlderAndWiser]

I know. Intellectually, I can rationalize it and it makes good sense. But I often feel guilty when I do that.

[queenofcardio]

Unfortunately yes. I need to put myself first sometimes

[Ironco]

I'm everyone's "beast of burden"

I help everyone and forget about myself all the time. Don't know why?

Deep down I'm probably avoiding something...

[DishLady]

Same. Keeping busy keeps the mind from lingering on sad or unpleasant things… keeps unwanted people out of my life… keeps the routine nice and productive and people at arm’s length…. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[CubaPirate]

The hell yeah. I need to have a word with myself about that lol

[DishLady]

Well said. I'm gonna borrow that line.

[exitseven]

no, that is something nobody ever accused me of,

[worldscolide]

Ha lol, no, I'm kind of indifferent unless it's a friend, or family member.

[SixFootSexy]

I try to be nice to myself and extend that kindness to people around me. If the truth needs said however, you might ruffle some feathers but it's worth it.

[UrLoveMocha]

I used to, but not anymore.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Absolutely not.