How can you really tell if you love someone or are truly in love?

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Orion84 · Accepted Answer

Just speaking for myself; if I would be willing to sacrifice myself for someone, then I am in love with them.

That's genuinely how I measure it for myself; if I would actively jump in front of a bullet, with no hesitation, then I love them.

TonyMetal___86 · Accepted Answer

When this person stays in my mind all the time and feel that i always need to care, provide, protect and stay close to them... etc

Plus i'll start dreaming of a life together in the future, how beautiful would it be...

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode love drama so you don’t lose your mind or your heart, babe 😏

You love someone when you care, feel safe, and want them happy.
You’re *in love* when they’re on your mind nonstop, you feel that pull toward them, future thoughts include them automatically, and intimacy feels natural, not forced.

Love is calm.
In love is calm + electric.

ohsheeT · Answer

Love is so powerful and so beautiful and I think we all want it so badly that it is hard to tell but at the same time it's really not when you walk up to somebody and you're looking them straight in the eye and you take their hand and you can just feel that energy rushed throughout your whole body you can be 20 ft 50 ft you can be a thousand miles away and on the telephone and get that same feeling rush through your body

But the thing about that is we can love thousands of people all at the same time if we were to take everything I said above because we do love that's who we are we are all lovers but there's lovers and then there's Beautiful Lovers there are lovers that become one and just melt each other and that's when you know did that love is greater when that person holds your hand when that person just says little things to make you feel their energy that's when you know it's true but at the same time when this is happening and it's brand new to you that's when it's hard to tell because it's brand new it's fresh you haven't experienced it before so you're trying to figure out what it really is but there are ways I mean like I said just you can feel it just by looking into their eyes but here's the thing it can't be brand new you have to wait for periods of time to pass because brand new anything feels good and that's the part where people mess up because they love that experience they love that energy that feeling and they go with it the time tells everything

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

In my lexicon, those two expressions are totally interchangeable to me. Be it in English or when I use my native language.

Futile, to me, designations aside, biochemical talks aside, and looking back... I experienced love as a sentiment constantly interacting with other feelings and emotions.

For example, I've been feeling love and fear, I felt love and peace of mind, love and despair, love and trust, love and excitement, love and sadness, anger. Love with and without self-awareness.

So, considering these interactions, I can't talk about love in a vacuum, I can't trust designations you're using like love, in love, infatuation, whatever. Because nothing of that truly relates to my experience.

MrChinaski · Answer

'Love' and 'in love' are completely different things. I'm not even sure why we use the same words.

Being in love is a cocktail of chemicals in the brain. Dopamine gives you the hit, dips in seratonin the need. You find yourself wanting to be with someone all the time and thinking about them when you should be doing other things. You drink until you are high and then wake up planning where the next glass is coming from.

This develops into bonding. Oxytocin is the chemical most commonly mentioned. Bonding, trust (often too much trust at this stage), dreaming of a future together forever.

Love is different. I gave this view earlier today, so enjoy the copypasta: Love is the work of knowing someone deeply, accepting them into yourself, being challenged by them and learning and growing with them and, more than anything, acting every day to make their lives better, even when sometimes it is to the detriment of your own.

At least, that's been my experience.

Still-alive · Answer

Well i can't give you this answer from experience yet sadly, maybe one day...

but to me i would think its after that honeymoon period is over you can still imagine yourself having a future and staying with this person, you feel they get you completely, you can be yourself 100%, maybe you've learned just about everything to know about them and they you and you still 100% accept them for who they are.

To me love is patient and long lasting... so if you're feeling both of those things say a year to two years in... i think you got it! I'm talking True love here, not just those lustful irresistible feelings you get in the very beginning.

This is from just observing and listening to people who have been in true love. It's the best i can do lol. Maybe others with more experience here can offer better insight here than me. :)

anyways best of luck to you Boba! :D

nolabels · Answer

Asking myself whether or not I have the other person's best interests in mind while maintaining my own individuality.

That's easier said than done, of course.

No one is perfect, either, though, me included.

Sunnyrjs · Answer

According to me love is just a feeling, a feeling developed when you have complete trust in someone, when you want to care for them and support them when they need you and needing the same from them.
So when you feel those things for someone then I think that's love

exitseven · Answer

it is hard because there is a physical reaction involved. It is very easy to get confused. I guess if it is not real love those physical feelings will fade over a few weeks or months.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

You gotta give it time and an honest chance.

AgentG111 · Answer

When your heart and head are spinning and butterflies in the stomach and you have feelings that are warm and comfortable not ones that put you at odds with yourself.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Hey you better not be in love with anybody but me! 😉😉😉😉 Just joking love isn't something you know in your mind you just feel it in your heart. When your in love trust me you'll know it

qwerty2469 · Answer

If youd kill yourself if you were forced to live without them.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

With a serious polygraph interview! ☝️

NathanDavis · Answer

and why would I doubt it?

ZameerAnsari91 · Answer

What's the difference

Xawyx-2 · Answer

Yes I can.

jahaims · Answer

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