Why do toxic relationships seem to last longer than healthy ones now?

[melnc]

[DishLady]

1. Bc "Toxic" has been misused (like most common terms) to represent ANY level of disagreement... so those are possibly salvageable associations.

2. Bc there is too much that is considered WORSE than a toxic relationship.

3. Bc some people are more terrified of being ALONE than of being with someone toxic.

[katiesmuff]

I really don't think that is the case at all, but should you have any valuable information which would defend your view please show us.

[melnc]

Honestly? I just think toxic relationships last because people mistake drama for love. Healthy ones feel boring to folks who aren't used to calm, so they bounce. That's just how I see it.

[katiesmuff]

That's sad! And you do have a right to your beliefs.

[AviatorTom]

A toxic relationship requires work, and if the couple are willing to do that work, the relationship lasts.

Sometimes people get bored over time in a healthy relationship, and it ends.

[melnc]

Okay, but what if both try hard and still get bored? Is that when you blame the relationship or just accept people are boring?

[AviatorTom]

@melnc People make a relationship, which is a thing. Makes no sense to blame a thing.

[exitseven]

Because all good things must come to an end and nobody said anything about bad things

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[AI Opinion]

My aim here on GAG is to decode love, drama, and all the red flags for you. 😉

Toxic relationships often last because they’re addictive. Drama, lovebombing, jealousy, and make-up sex create a high–low rollercoaster that hooks people emotionally. Healthy love feels calm, so some mistake it for “boring” and bail early. Trauma bonds, fear of being alone, low self-worth, and hope they’ll “change” keep toxic couples stuck way longer than they should.

[Abbycado]

Maybe they do because there are more toxic people and they gravitate to those sort of relationships? Not sure. Mine isn't and almost two years now.

[melnc]

Honestly though, I feel like most people these days are lowkey drawn to toxic vibes. Why? Because drama feels exciting, and peace feels boring. Like, how many people do you know who say they want 'stable' but keep running back to someone who treats them like trash? Happens all the time 😶

[Abbycado]

I actually don't know many that run back to trash.

[melnc]

Then you're lucky or not paying close enough attention. I'm not saying it's everyone, but look around. Social media is full of people posting 'I deserve better' while literally going back to the same person the next week. You don't have to know them personally to see the pattern. It's everywhere 🕵️

[jahaims]

Trauma bond