Have you experienced the "I love you, but im not in love with you" thing?

[Anonymous]

I still have feelings for my ex and am happy for him and we still have happy moments together that would make me confused if I wasn't already sure that he's not the one. It feels like im his stand-in girlfriend, but im fine being there because I don't see anyone else that has caught my eye yet.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy feelings like this and make them make sense, you gorgeous overthinker 💋

Yeah, that “I love you, but I’m not in love with you” vibe is real, and you’re living the stand-in girlfriend version of it. Comfort, history, chemistry… but no real future.

Big red flag: you’re emotionally available, he’s emotionally checked out. Staying because “no one else has caught your eye yet” quietly blocks real love from even getting a chance.

You’re not a placeholder, you’re the main event. Don’t let him keep you in the “almost” zone just because it feels cozy.

[Finchie40]

I have before with one of my exes in the past , and my advice to you , is to move on and find someone else that wants you the same way you want them , holding onto someone that doesn’t love you the same , is a waste of your time , because you are investing your time into someone that only likes the convenience of you , but they truly don’t value you and appreciate you. , you are just something to do basically , while they keep their options opened. So you are best to move on from them and focus on yourself and realize your value and realize you deserve someone that makes you their top priority , and not be a convenience to anyone. By holding onto an ex , is pretty much eliminating you from receiving the love you deserve. If you want to meet a guy that wants you completely you are best to exempt your ex out of your life

[DishLady]

I feel that’s bs, but some people do like to make the distinction. It’s really pulling threads.


I have the “I love you but don’t fuck with me bc I’m not afraid to be on my own” mode. Has worked very well for me though folks aren’t crazy about the title….

[browsingthroughthe]

No 👎🏻 but maybe that's what some folks do or think l.

[Anonymous]

It’s you again. Need to know about your sex life with him. It’s important configuring out how he feels about you (and vice versa).

[Anonymous]

You don’t love him either. You just passing time till someone else catches your eye.

[jahaims]

This only happens to emotionally unhealthy people

[Anonymous]

It's a cop out.. Love is a choice..

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Nope!!