Why is he still coming around if he may have a child and another woman?

[Anonymous]

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And I don’t mean coming around cheating just a little bit of update for you all reading the question. But I mean lurking at my old neighborhood and even before I moved, he was coming all sorts of time of the day the afternoon and still coming at night. I most recently moved, but my used to be neighbor still give me updates when he’s in the neighborhood. And I seriously don’t understand what this man’s goal is, the times that he was around. He would stare at me from a distance

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Or either listen to my love conversations in my own room. Like he was the one who left back in 2024, lied to me about him, not communicating with his ex, and possibility messed around and got another chick pregnant around that time, and he was just mistreating me and should I add he choked me as well when I was carrying his flesh and blood his child. I did poke at him on the Internet back in 2025 was a baby’s hand, but since 2026 he’s only been showing up observing my movement, when he doesn’t

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode confusing relationships and call out red flags with a little charm 😏

He’s still coming around because you give him something: attention, ego boost, emotional support, maybe sex. Classic breadcrumbing. If he has another woman and maybe a child, that’s a huge red flag, not “potential.” He’s keeping you as a backup. Protect your heart, not his double life.

[Asker]

Him and I haven’t hooked up since 2024. At first, I was playing into his little online stuff for a while. And giving him my reaction that he wanted as the beginning. But it’s actually quite disrespectful that he’s doing that., I just don’t understand what he would want from me because he left when I was carrying his own born child. Smh 🤦‍♀️ he already made his bed, still not sure why he’s trying to mess mines up. That’s annoying, that all he did for 2026 is just stare at me and go to my old neighbor complaining that I’m not his concern no problem when she acts why she coming into my old neighborhood..

[Asker]

And I forgot to add he has these burner accounts new accounts and fake accounts accounts he buys just to add me from them and I’m like this is not what a man with a child or a woman does. Posting bait stuff on one account about marriage, babies and relationships. Then acting like a hurt soul on another or mentioning how to let go of someone. It should be easy if he’s sexually involved with other people and definitely a kid would definitely make me more focus. But with him, it’s like he’s addicted to coming around and he doesn’t have to.

[AviatorTom]

Having a child with another woman is a physical thing. He may be looking for an emotional thing with you.

[Asker]

Well he took off when I was pergant with his chid and ended up being with her. I don’t want a lying man or one that cheats

[Anonymous]

Maybe he still wants to keep a connection with you because he's not ready to let go, or he likes knowing he still has access to you. Some men want to keep the door open even when they've moved on with someone else. But his reasons could be different, so I wouldn't assume it's love just because he keeps coming around. Pay more attention to his actions than his presence. If he has another woman and possibly a child, you deserve clarity, not confusion. ❤️

[Nikki1989]

He may enjoy the attention, companionship, or emotional support you provide and does not want to lose access to it.

[Asker]

I don’t do anything but live my life and all he do is watch and stare at me from a distance smh it’s sick

[Anonymous]

Because he’s a disgusting useless psychopathic cheater.

[Asker]

We aren’t hooking up, but he probably is wanting some action

[slatyb]

Why are you still seeing him?

[Asker]

I’m not he just be showing up