I would tread carefully here. I agree with you I would also want to be married before having kids. I know some people might think that's silly, but I have seen wayyyyy tooo many women have kids with guys and then the guys just up and leave and could care less about the child they helped create.
I don't know how anyone could abandon their child. But it happens everyday. It's not fair to you to give up what you want for him. And you have to also protect yourself. Yes marriage is no guarantee, but at least if you are married for a few years you can test the waters so to speak.
There really is no sure fire way to know whether he is truly committed to having and taking care of a family with you. Even if things don't work out between you two he should be damn sure he is going to be there for his children.
The only thing I can say is stick with your gut feeling. If you don't feel comfortable having kids without marriage, then don't. Yes some will criticize you because they will argue that you are letting someone walk out of your life for something silly like marriage. But marriage is important to you. Don't let someone else's opinion of what you want make you give up something you want to have.
I know a lot of people are not pro-marriage, but marriage is still important to some people. I think people should do what makes them happy. And if you are going to be unhappy being a mother and not a wife then I think you should make that clear to him.
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I think a lot of men worry about the financial and practical commitments of marriage (both the actual wedding and support thereafter). Other men just really don't value marriage all that much. For these and other reasons a lot of men will try to bypass it altogether. Clearly it's important to you, though. Obviously you realize that having a baby with him will bind you together for life. If he's cagey about marriage I think it's fairly safe to say that he'll have little motivation to go through with it once you're in that position - and I fear that might also leave you without certain rights to child (or other) financial support in the event that the relationship didn't work out. Touch wood there'll be no problems, but you never know in life, and having a child is a huge commitment that requires you to consider such possibilities in the future. If I were you I'd put a halt on the baby making and tell your partner that it's important to you that he make a marriage commitment to you before you bring a little one in to the world.
Good luck =)
Maybe he doesn't believe in marriage at all. I don't. I never want to get married, but I do want children eventually. The reason is from how I was raised. I saw my mother in an unhappy marriage for 9 years; yet, she couldn't get a divorce because she couldn't afford to. She had to slowly save up money until she was able to do so.
The way I see it is that marriage is just another obstacle to obstruct you from leaving someone. In my case, my father was an alcoholic who did not want to divorce my mother because he was very insecure. He paid no bills (even though he made $10,000 a year more than her), and didn't take care of us, but he used the marriage as "proof" that he was in our lives. I don't think that it should ever be that way.
In ancient times, man just wants to spread his genes however he despises commitments.
These traits are passed down generations after generations, that's why your boyfriend wants to have babies however he doesn't want the idea of commitment forever.
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Leave sister. God loves you-the guy isn't serious. Set your priorities. That baby should have 2 committed parents. Also John 3 vs 16. Repent and believe in the Gospel
GIRL RUN FOR THE HILLS. he's trying to make you a baby momma. don't let anyone tell you marriage is not important. having a baby is way more important then getting married. HE WANTS A BABY BUT NOT ANY TYPE OF SOLID FOUNDATION FOR IT. it seems like he just wants you to stick around while he bounces out when the baby do arrive. DONT MAKE THE STUPID MISTAKE. IF YOU WANT TO STAY WITH HIM FINE BUT DONT GET PREGANT.
That's a dumb idea. If he has any doubts about the relationship at all, why does he want to add a baby to the equation?
Maybe he wants kids for the long hual but isn't sure about you
Carts and horses. Which one goes in front?
I think he is just trying to get some
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