Why is my boyfriend hinting at marriage and having a baby early on in the relationship?

[Ofoceansbeaches1]

Even when we weren't official, my boyfriend had asked about my age and saying I'm already at an age that I should have a baby but the caveat here is that we have been talking for 4 months and just got into a relationship for about two weeks. Everytime we meet, he will either ask me when would I settle down or at what age and I became silent and joked around. Then, he said you didn't answer my question.

He told me he has feelings for me and told his mother about it so his mother said that he should just marry me. He also told me he already wants me to be the one he'll marry.

Then, he ask whether I like to take care of kids. He says he sense a vibe from me that I don't like to take care of kids. I either just joke around or tell him that it's too early and I even told him that I"m scared of giving birth.

I really don't want to have kids but it seems like whenever I say it to him he'll try to convince me otherwise and say that I won't have anyone who is similar to me or someone who can continue my genes. Everytime he has these future talks, i feel smothered but I wonder why he keeps on mentioning these so early on the relationship.

He also seems too serious of the relationship and ask what my mother will feel if I indeed get pregnant. Then, he touched my belly and said it was his baby lol. He was referring to the fats but still. I'm not really ready for anything like that.

Previously, he also wanted to have sex but when I declined and told him I don't want to be pregnant cause I'm not ready, he just laughed off and told me I won't get pregnant and to trust him. Why do I feel that he is aspiring to make me pregnant and why does he keep mentioning these?

[ProbablyClueless]

He sounds like a pretty controlling person!

Unless there's some additional aspect of this situation I'm not understanding, his intention seems pretty straight forward and obvious; he's telling you that if you are going to stick around, he's expecting you to give him kids. This is not negotiable for him. If you decide to stick around, that is what you are agreeing to. There will be no compromise on this particular issue; either you're on the same track as him or you aren't.

You're 30, so I'm guessing that he's probably about the same age. Our age is an extremely normal time for most people to think it terms of settling down with their special person. If that's what you want for yourself, I would recommend finding someone who makes you feel a little more at ease at the idea.

[Berethor]

Because you are 33, that is pretty old, and the older you get the harder it to have kids, I think that you should let him impregnate you, or you would end up single and childless.

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/age-and-fertility

[AI Opinion]

Sounds like you've got yourself a classic case of lovebombing meets baby fever, and it's coming in hot! 😅 When someone pushes the marriage-and-baby agenda so early on, it can feel like you're starring in your own personal rom-com—except it's less "happily ever after" and more "red flags waving in the wind." It's crucial to remember that your feelings and reservations matter immensely. It's great that he's open about his feelings and future desires, but it's equally important, if not more, that he respects your pace and your stance on having children.

Feeling smothered is your intuition telling you to pump the brakes and have a heart-to-heart. Communication is key in any relationship, especially when it comes to big life decisions like marriage and kids. You deserve someone who not only dreams of a future with you but also respects your views and fears regarding it. So, sit him down and have a candid talk about how you're feeling. It's crucial he understands that trust is built over time, not by pressuring or laughing off serious concerns. Remember, true love respects, listens, and waits. No need to rush; the right path will unfold naturally, with or without those extra genes running around. 😘

[BetaBucks]

Sounds like you're not into kids. Make it clear that you plan to live child free. He needs to find someone else, probably younger, and not pressure you for something you don't want. Be very blunt with him. He's too stupid to get the message otherwise.

[eagle1951]

ask him