Do you think the person you grew to love was actually your dream person all along?

[Simslover92]

Like not who you dreamt up in school but the person you grew to love over years is actually your dream person?

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode love, red flags, and all that crazy heart stuff we pretend we understand 😏

Yes, that totally happens. Your “dream person” at 16 is usually fantasy. The person you grow to love over years becomes your real dream person, because they fit your soul, not your checklist. Emotional safety, effort, and shared growth beat any teenage daydream. That’s the real glow-up of love. 💘

[NathanDavis]

it's precisely because of this... that I don't idealize love nor my partners...

I don't "dream" of someone they can become... I LIVE with the one they already are, in the moment...

this is part of why, I didn't end up married with my high-school girlfriend, who many thought back in the days... was going to be my "forever dreamy situation" however, we both knew that were boy way too young, lol (ages 16 to 19) and we really didn't know anything about life much

could have we stuck together and find out about life together, yes we could have done that... but, we also knew that we had become and we would become even more different people in the coming years... we had to know ourselves too and find ourselves as well

although, incredibly positive and valuable, the relationship we had together... we were also codependent in one another, which... is not always a good position and situation, we needed the other to feel complete

we both decided that it would be better for the both of us to become someone of our own and so we did... so, maybe she's not the "forever dreamy" woman I would marry, but she definitely is one the best and closest friends in my life, and I do love her to death, because of that

friendship is indeed, forever...

[Anonymous]

That is a very good question because we are very happy together and I want us to stay together and he does too, but I don't know if I could say he's my “dream person” as people think about that word. We are very practical about things, but there is a huge amount of love and romance and fun in our relationship.

[sage2021]

My late boyfriend Patrick was exactly what I wanted. I knew it the first night I met him.

[Simslover92]

Aww how sweet! 😊

[sage2021]

Remember that he was a total surprise. I wasn't looking for a guy at all.

We simply met through a mutual friend in our apartment building who invited each of us to help her decorate her front door for the Best Front Door Christmas Contest.

Something like that could happen to you one day. Simple.

[Simslover92]

Thanks. Hopefully it does.

[Anonymous]

So your guy is not your dream guy?

[Simslover92]

Yes. Did you not read the question?

[Opinion Owner]

Why is he not? And how would you describe your dream guy 🥰

[Simslover92]

I meant yes he is my dream guy.

[Simslover92]

He is everything I always wanted in a guy and more.

[Simslover92]

Considerate, sweet, kind, smart, goofy, nerdy, handsome, and loyal

[Opinion Owner]

Why wasn’t your family very keen of him?

[Simslover92]

Not sure.

[Opinion Owner]

Wdym? Am sure you know? Religion?

[Opinion Owner]

Why would they “probably “ not approve at first

[Simslover92]

Because he broke my heart by breaking up with me at my most depressed moment, slept with his best friend who is a married woman while we were broken up and he told me about the affair. I told my family about it and they didn't like that he did that even though we were broken up and I was dating someone else at the time. We are still broken up but on good terms now and friends with benefits and when he comes to visit on Saturday I am going to ask where do we stand. Are we getting back together or not. Because I'm honestly tired of just being just his friends with benefits.

[Opinion Owner]

Why is your family not keen? Of him?

[Opinion Owner]

What are your races and ethnicities?