Professor in love with a student?

[Anonymous]

If you were a professor in love with a student, would you pursue him/her?

Try to keep in contact with him/her?

Or just try to get over it?

[sketchy]

Forget it. It's not worth losing a job over. If I'm not in a relationship with the student already, then it can't be love, but just lust - and like any professor, I'll have taught hundreds of very attractive students, and this one wouldn't be anything special or worth keeping in touch with particularly.

[Asker]

You're probably right. I just want men and women's perspective because out of a poll on 5 men and 5 women (who certainly do not reflect the population) 5 girls said they'd 'keep in touch' but only 1 man say they'd do that.

So I was just wondering. Thanks. ^^

[Asker]

Oh, and we were talking about a professor who is no longer the student's professor and the student is in a different department and earning his/her PHD (graduating) in a month.

[dnately]

I would try to get over it, because it's very easy to lose your job by doing something stupid. If I wasn't able to get over it, I would wait till there is no longer a teacher-student situation and do something about it.

[Asker]

It was a discussion between my group of friends guys and girls. All the girls said that they won't do much but try to keep in contact until there was no student-professor relationship.

However, 4 guys said that they would try to get over it first (as hard as they can). Mostly because keeping in contact isn't a guy thing.

Is that true?

What if you were quite taken by the girl/guy?

[dnately]

I think that "keeping in contact" is not a guy thing to say at a party, but it is very much a guy thing to do. Your friends might need to grow up before they stop feeling the need to act macho ;)

[sunbearmagic]

I would hope a professor would not pursue a student until they were no longer their student. As long as its mutual I see no problem.

[Serotriptomine]

A professor cannot instantly or over the course of teaching within the confines of school be "in love" with a student of his or hers. It would be considered "lust" at 'best'.

I would personally value my career over some "love interest"

[Asker]

True. Thanks for your answer.

The real questions, I guess, is that if it was somehow "love," would you even keep in contact?

The my girlfriends said they'd "keep in touch" but the guys said they wouldn't.

[Serotriptomine]

You could keep in touch as long as it doesn't jeopardize my life.

[NerdInDenial]

I would get over it as it is the professional thing to do.

[Asker]

Good answer. Thanks.

[InMyHeart]

I'd definitely get over it.

[Asker]

So you wouldn't even keep in contact right?

Thanks for your answer!

[skb94]

depends on how strong I felt about her

[Asker]

I see. What if you were about an 8/10 (10 being extremely in love).

What would you do?

[skb94]

hmm that's hard to say, but I think id pursue her