At what age does a 4 year dating gap become acceptable. High School? College? 20s? If other, please explain.
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Now understand by these age categorizations, I mean the GUY's age.
Dating a girl 4 years younger than you?
If you're in college you'd have to date someone outside of college in order for them to be 4 years apart (unless someone was old or young for their grade). A freshman and a senior are three years apart.
But overall I think its best if people in high school date other high schoolers, people in college date other people and college, and once you're out of college, date only people who are not in school. Even if you think the age difference is acceptable (say 20 and 24), someone who is 20 and in college is going to have a very different mindset about relationships and life than someone who is 24 and in some sort of real job or graduate school.
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Right after college. Once you are both out of college, you're adults with relatively the same concerns - building/maintaining a career, building a family, living on your own responsibly. You are in the same era of your lives (there's really no new era in your life between college and middle age except marriage, if you follow me).
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I'd say it's fine when the guy is in college and the girl's in high school. I mean, wait to do certain things until she's at least 18 of course, but if you care enough about each other, that shouldn't be too much of a problem.
Im a sophomore in college and If me or any guys I knew dated someone younger than 18 I would consider them weird, mainly not because of age, but because of personality traits. I noticed a younger girl at a restaurant I worked at, she was cute, but I wasn't sure how old she was, but when heard the things she said and just the way she carried herself it was very girlish, not womanish. she reminded me of a young girl and that's just not something I want or anyone my age should want.
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College probably or so, if they are in college. But even then I'd say it's not necessarily a good idea. Nothing about the age difference but usually because girls change a LOT (so do guys actually, but it seems like girls more, but maybe cause I pay more attention to em) between high school and college years.
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Well I'm only speaking for myself here but if I was to date a girl 4 years younger than me than she would have to be at least 20 or 21 otherwise it's just too weird for me. I'm 22 and in my final year of university so if I was to date a girl 4 years younger she be in her 1st year of uni and only 18 and that would be too weird for me. I think if I was 25 and the girl was 21 than that would be ok.
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How about I answer this with another 2 questions.
Do you like her? Does she like you? If yes to both of those, then who cares what other people think, go for it! -
I would say college because if the guys in college then the girl must at least be in high school which in my opinion is fine. but it would be weird for a guy to be in like 10th grade dating a 6th grader.
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I think the rule is that from your 18th birthday and onward you can date people half your age plus 7.
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one you are both comfortable with it and once you are both of legal age when engaging in sexual activities, it is acceptable.
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there are many things that could be effected by this choice,
one, your friends
two, the public
tree, you both
as you get older it will become less awkword -
I'm going to approach this question as when is it acceptable to start a relationship with a 4 year gap. I'd go with college or the last year of high school (so a senior and freshman thing).
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college totally.. age range is way larger then before.. as long as the connection is great it doesn't matter what the age is imo ;)
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College. When I was 19 I was with a 25 year old. It wasn't weird then, but it would have been is I was in high school.
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Once you are both legally adults. Buy it really depends more on maturity than age.
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I would say college...
I just can't imagine myself at 15years old dating a 19 years old guy. -
When I was thirteen I dated a 17 year old, it was fine and I see nothing wrong with it :)
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i think it depends on the maturity of the two people to make the relationship work and not really the age
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I think college as long as they are both legally adults. I don't see how a 20 year old could be interested in a 16 year old still dealing with high school drama.
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It depends on the maturity of the individuals.
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