Why does my Boyfriend add random sluts/ girls from Facebook "Add Me" pages?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are together now for just a little over a year and we both love each other. The only problem is that i`m still a virgin and I'm scared sh*tless for my 1st time. Also, anytime me and my boyfriend try having intercourse, I'm always in pain and I back away and scream. The sex is what's lacking in our relationship which I'm sure will be worked on slowly...other than that we love each other and were close.

But lately, I also have noticed that on Facebook, my boyfriend adds random sluts and they all come from these ``Add Me`` pages. Is he looking and adding them just for fun or is it for business (escorts, nude photography, etc..). Or will I be cheated on eventually because there`s a lack of sex in our relationship

[tohrment]

1. Don't call them 'sluts'. Besides the fact you don't know them, your boyfriend is adding them is not a reflection of their character. If they have provocative pictures or whatever, that still doesn't make them a slut.

2. Your discomfort with sex could be something more serious. Maybe consult with a doctor to see if anything is up. Otherwise, maybe you just aren't ready to have sex.

3. I won't lie, it is of course possible that you will be cheated on because of the sex deficit. However, obviously no one on this site can give you an absolute answer. If that does happen, then get rid of him and move on. If he isn't willing to wait until you're comfortable and ready, he should let you know and either sort something out or break up if he doesn't feel 'fulfilled'.

Have a talk with him and see where he's at with it. Honestly, I've never heard of a girl who found the pain so severe, so long as they are properly 'prepared'. Maybe try masturbating or something to get yourself more comfortable with it. If you just aren't ready, don't push yourself. Don't do it to please him, do it because YOU want to.

[saraxray]

Trust 99% of guys add girls and they all have a wee nosey at the slutty groups etc its life so let him know that its pissing u off so cut it out and he will cut it down!!! Thats ur best result chick x

[Guysensei]

none of us can tell you, and the two other guys that answered are extremely negative trying to make you question your relationship(because they don't got one and want to bring others down to their level)

Your boyfriend is probably getting tired of waiting and his sexual needs are getting somewhat satisfied looking at sexy girls on his computer.

You should just face the pain and bear with it a little. honestly, the pain is only temporary, and if you get through it you'll start to enjoy the amazingness of sex which feels AWESOME with no pain.

(Funny because that's how most problems in life are.. face a little pain that you were avoiding and you'll reap the benefits)

[Asker]

ya he has told me that he jerks off daily...sometimes its while he`s on FB

[Guysensei]

well, try sex with him then. Honestly, sex is like the barometer of a relationship. If the sex is good then the couple is happy, if not then they arent...

[Asker]

im still a virgin and its very painful for me whenever we try plus I'm sh*tlessly scared...what should I do to make it less painful and what's the best position to be in

[Guysensei]

well tbh you should ask a girl that.. all I can tell you is about how to deal with fear. Fear makes you dramatize things in a negative way, your imagination runs away with itself and paralyzes you. Sex might be painful at first, but its not the end of the world painful. You should make another questions to girls about this though, I'm sure they can tell you much much better on this specific subject of pain and losing your virginity.

[schlierkampification]

If he's really a good guy and he truly loves you, then he's not going to ever cheat. It's pretty difficult to forgive someone for cheating once they do it. Maybe he still has some of that single-guy lifestyle left in him and is still getting used to the whole relationship thing. If you're super-concerned, tell him to stop adding random sluts to Facebook. Tell him you're not comfortable with it and maybe even ask him for a straight-on answer for why he does it.

[Asker]

ya he like hanging out with friends quite a lot (like a teenager lol), and his mother has re-assured me that all of his friends are platonic and that he does love me and he is happy with me..

[schlierkampification]

That's good. Those are good things!

[drummerdude25]

It's pretty apparent that your relationship with him is already doomed... Why would you want to be with a guy like that?

[Anonymous]

You will almost certainly be cheated on.

Guys want sex. If you won't give it up after a year, I'm amazed he isn't cheating on you already.