Why do girls pick fights on purpose?

[Anonymous]

Im not saying all girl do it but what is so wrong about having a nice, pleasant day without getting into an argument? Maybe I have been spending too much time with this girl but we usually have a good time but then, after a few days, it starts. She picks fights over a word I said, or about how I'm being quiet and having and attitude or about how I'm being friendly and too comfortable, or a face I made or how I'm walking around without saying a word, or how I made a comment with a smug attitude, I mean, really? I understand if it was a big deal or something important but this? Then I try to explain to her that it wasn't my intention to come off that way and she just gets mad and "talk to me when you get your act together". Am I being insensitive or is she just looking for attention?

[Skylark23]

Can tell you from experience that something is on her mind and that she is keeping it in and venting her frustration on you. I do exactly the same to my boyfriend, we live together and after a few days together at home we start to get agitated and he gets all stroppy or I either start getting irritated, mainly me. I have a lot of things I feel my boyfriend does not understand me on and he feels the same about him self.

Seems like she is being a bit over the top though and needs to start talking to you before she explodes! try and catch her on a good moment and see if you can talk to her about it.

Do you take her out places? Or do you go out a lot with your friends while she is at home?

[Asker]

Well, neither, we are not even dating. We act like we are with all the arguments but we are just friends, if that :/. Is that weird?

[Skylark23]

Ah OK I see, well talking to her is the best solution. If she cannot sit down and communicate with you on a level where you can both agree on things and make your potential relationship great! If she cannot do that I think you are best cutting it short while its not too hard to break up and find someone that does not treat you like a door mat and contently is looking for a fight! Good luck :)

[aMuse]

Manipulative girls do this a lot. The push and pull... They get all sweet, compliment the hell out of you, etc when they want something, and when they don't get their way they snap and toss an insult, call you mean, pick a fight or whatever. Rinse and repeat to try and get their way... It's how they played their fathers to get money to buy stuff or to get permission to do things. It worked on him so they think it will work on you.

[aMuse]

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