Questions: Relationships

Is this what many men do? Give up authentic parts of who you are and your personality just so you have a real chance with the women to end up in a relationship or marriage? Altering yourself like that by destroying who you really are to not being truly yourself just so you have a relationship, marriage and or kids? Is not getting a relationship or marriage or the end of your bloodline thanks to you being your true self really so much worse than being with a woman loving you being your fake self and risk getting divorced and becoming a pay slave for when either she finds out you're not who she thought you are or you fall apart from imitating like that?

And before you say "What is this Nonsense? Men don't do that" what if i told you there are men, that don't show you that they've sacrificed parts of who they are as much as they don't show feelings? Point being you are probably unaware, that some men gave up parts of their personality and who they are and are actively putting up an impressive facade version of "manly man" of themselves for you girls. Anything just to be in a relationship or marriage or not risking the end of their bloodline.

I proposed to my now-wife on Friday, March 10, 2023 around 6:30 pm in the Bonefish Grill in Gainesville, Florida. Just like in the movies from the 1930's and 1940's, I got down on one knee the middle of that very crowded restaurant, make a few very brief comments, and then asked. . . while the restaurant manager (who knew my plan in advance) video'ed the event. I have no idea what I would have done if she had said "no," and it was my good fortune that she agreed to become Ms. OlderAndWiser.

Have you ever proposed and been rejected, or received a proposal and rejected it? Did the rejection ultimately get reversed, and the proposal was accepted?

Looking back on that experience, do you think the rejection was the right response? If so, why? Do you look back with regret and wish it had not ended with rejection?