Have you ever had crazy personal changes for the better?

[jennifer_bloom]

As a 20 year old I won’t from timid to supremely confident and intelligent in a matter of months

Recently I’ve gone through major personality changes too - like I’ve forgiven almost every single person that has ever treated me and it used to be that forgiving even one person was difficult

I keep thinking I’m going to continue changing in a big way but believing that is sometimes unlikely because God does not tell me who he does things all the time, sometimes all he tells me is the end result

[libsaretards]

When it comes to how I handle bosses.

In my very first job I always thought I had to put up with everything a boss threw my way. Luckily I had good bosses so this was not really an issue.

My 2nd job was the military so obviously I HAD to take whatever bullshit was thrown my way.

After the military, I was determined to not let a boss have more power over my life than necessary. I would of course do the task assigned but I am no longer a "yes man". If I have a family issue to take care of, my boss is not going to decide if I can take off or not. I WILL take off because family is more important. I am not afraid to lose a job because I can find another. I have also learned to simply not list bad bosses as references. Uber gives me a good cover as it ensures I never have an employment gap. If a boss is toxic or getting on my nerves, I WILL now speak up, respectfully. I set boundaries with my bosses for after working hours. I give bosses enough time before events I have planned so they have no reason to deny my requests so if they deny those requests I tell them I am taking off anyways and they can either fire me or accept my decision. I no longer let my place of employment dictate my life. I am not disrespectful to a boss. I work hard and do the assigned tasks. However, work is no longer my only priority in life and I am now able to put MY priorities above my boss's priorities for me.

[IMuser]

Exactly how did you go from timid to confident?

[jennifer_bloom]

God cleansed me from my fear

[IMuser]

I see...

[CubsterShura]

I'd say from the past year I've changed a lot lol. First off moving abroad to study and everything that comes with it is bound to change you anyway, but also discovering lately that I'm almost autistic and reflecting on how it's affected my life and working on healing my childhood traumas (which also requires them to resurface first which is not fun). I am also much more confident in dating! I was talking to any and every new guy that's not an a-hole and I'm currently in a relationship with a wonderful man who's a foot taller than me and very magnetic in looks and personality. So I'm going through a lot but it feels like the part of a painting when it all looks messy before things start to magically come together.

[skyeee_]

yeah- i've gotten a lot less cringe and definitely a bit more mature

[humanearth]

I was a spoiled brat, that got anything he wanted from mommy.

Mom would pay my rent, phone bill (before there was cellphones), my food, you name it.

But once she died, the money train was gone. That when I had to grow the fuck up. and get my head out of my ass. I had to learn to bust my ass and really work for what I needed.

I was inches away from being homeless and living in the park

So you parents out there, that have young adult kids and your doing what my mom did.

Stop that shit now, your just making it worse on them. They have to learn to fail and picked themselves back up without you.

Its okay to help out once in while, but don't be their crutches.

[HighlyVolatile]

I went from the shiest and most reserved guy in high school to a party-loving maniac in university but in my case, I was actually very extroverted and social when I was a boy.

What turned me all shy temporarily was bouncing to new countries and being the new kid in school and barely able to understand any American slang. Especially American high school was a culture shock for me with people saying things like, "Sup?" to me and I didn't even know what that meant while offering a nerdy response like, "Hi! How are you?" while dressed in short shirts and t-shirt and then they might be like, "Pshawww."

But by my university years, I started to understand the bulk of American slang and fashion and culture. So at that point, when people said things like, "Sup?" to me, I'd say, "Wassssuppppp!"

[HighlyVolatile]

I also started experimenting with fashion at university. Before university, I dressed like a Japanese nerd. But in university, I dressed... well, it's kind of cringe now but like this. I toned it down later:

I wore an arm band because I have the most ghostly scar on my right arm from spilling boiling oil all over my arm as a boy. I was self-conscious about it so I put a tattoo on top and then ceased to become self-conscious until I returned to Japan and then found how Japanese disapprove so much of tattoos (they associate it with organized crime) only to wear arm band again.

[HighlyVolatile]

But I went from shy uber-nerd in high school to semi-popular in university, being invited a lot to parties and high-fiving people. I was a borderline frat boy type there; heavy drinking and high-fiving along with dating (although I made a serious girlfriend there and wanted one the whole time; I wasn't interested in hook-ups). Yet I kept my 4.0 GPA regardless -- party hard, work and study hard sort of philosophy.

[HighlyVolatile]

It was quite a 180 for me though. I went to my first drinking party ever in university and tried heavy alcohol, weed, shrooms, and lost my virginity all in one night to a very forward pretty girl who sat on my lap and brought me Rumpleminze shots and then kissed me after I joined her drinking them. My life changed so much through that one experience.

[HighlyVolatile]

... a little bit corrupt perhaps for your tastes. I hope you don't think ill of me as a result. I was exposed to all this all of a sudden and overwhelmed but loving it at first. I found emptiness later and started favoring more picnics and wholesome activities, as well as marrying my great wife, after. I've matured a bit since then that way but it's a slow-going process for me to value such harmony and longevity with people. I was addicted to chaos for a while during that period and it was a lot of fun in hindsight, but a bit hollow.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, since joining G@G I've changed for the better, and even though I'm age 54 none of the Ladies on here judge me based on being age 54 and they don't call me names I've been on some sites that judge older people and it can be really sad but also I've matured mentally as well I do believe my mental health medications have helped me
for the better and I'm comfortable with things now.

[Imkass]

Yup change My sex, because I was mentally and physically abused as a man by several Man and women when I was a Child. Now im a strong single women with a child conquering the world

[akrs_10]

Yeah when I was younger I was so shy I can't say something without stuttering but now I roast people so smoothly

[craig24]

How just how? I could use some advice.

[akrs_10]

Just don't care what others will think about you

[TheBigGuy9]

Wow. Keep moving forward. It’s taken me a long time to change things individually about me. Though my work ethic has never changed, my socializing was terrible for so long.

[lofii]

Becoming Toxic was the best change that I've personally made

[TX651]

Yes, in my senior years now, I seem to have a hard time remembering words I want to say.

[exitseven]

No, any change I ever had made things worse.

[Debbie14217]

Yes my breasts and butt

[Oncogen]

can i have a look😅😅

[MrTaboo]

At 15 I was taught to be a Dom.

[IMuser]

By whom?

[MrTaboo]

My mom

[IMuser]

I would love a summary of your lessons if possible

[RandomGuy1030]

I don't change, i money

[Anonymous]

Nope, just crazy changes, no better

[CherriesWithGold]

Yeah. I left islam.